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Don’t ask me why I know weirdoes; I know ALL kinds of people!
Ok, I really wanna ask you this:
See:
OLD bad, weird “friends” with serious mentality issues, showing up after it’s been YEARS of disconnection from their side, asking to renew the “friendship” they shared with you once:
Would you take them back? Or will you learn the lessons of the past?
REMEMBER, they made your life miserable once, they betrayed your “friendship” and stabbed you in the back occasionally, they took advantages of you whenever possible..
But again, man, it’s been ages! Beside, they really sucked in life after you were gone.. Now they really "seem" to need you. * poor things?* .. and you , surprisingly, have no hard feelings whatsoever. But you don’t want to be stupid AGAIN!
Will you give them another chance\time? Especially if you are having a fabulous life with friends who actually named FRIENDS for good reasons?
Will you "trust" them? Will you let them in your life? REMEMBER you are no Dr.Phil!You aint gonna fix’em, honey! You didn’t fix’em then!
OR will you be selfish and pass the “offer”!
But it's been over three years now.. people change.. I dunno.. grrrr
I don’t know what to do.. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, NO WAY! FORGET IT! .. but I’m almost sure they didn’t change.. Do I have to be 100% sure? I have no time now I need to study lol
I’m really confused today. After receiving loads of disturbing sms, my mobile is drained and so is my conscience.
I shouldn’t let anyone make me feel guilty about their lives' bad choices when all what I did for them was PURE good from my side! How can anyone think that it’s ok to manipulate people’s awareness on FACTS, for the God’s sake! grrrrrrrr
I will NOT let them make me feel bad because THEY got unhappy when I was away..
Lack of stability is just horrible. I really feel so sorry for them..
I wasn’t responsible for whatever happened to them.. And of course I do not want to be responsible NOW.
Lol my life is so exciting! There is always some scary actions going on on some level… I think of the unpleasant “adventures” as good stories to tell later. And of course experiences in life blab bla bla
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azilana7037 said
Think about this... ...Imagine an object made of glass or crystal. It's beautiful, a delight to the eyes and heart of the owner. One day, beyond your control, the crystal had a chip off or somehow the glasshad a small crack. The crack/chip is there to remain and no matter what you do, it's still there. You can glue it back but you can never restore it to it's original form.
I know you have a kind, forgiving heart my dear. But if you feel hesitant of accepting them back because of what they did to you, I suggest you follow what your gut feelings tell you. You won't be able to relax/comfortable when you're with them for the fear that they may repeat what they did to you back then.
I speak for myself...I too, trust easily. I always give my friends and people around me "the benefit of the doubt" and not to be judgemental even though how bad they treat me. But once my patience reached it's point, that person cease to exist. I erase him/her in my life and if I see him/her, I'm always reminded of what he/she did to me.
Whatever your decisions are, azzy here to give you her support.
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What you are is what you have been, and what you will be is what you do now. - Buddha
qatari said
Be comfortable ...Don't let people put pressure on you. You do not owe them anything other than being honest and kind.
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Qatar Girl said
Hey Aisha, well i would say ...Hey Aisha,
well i would say just ignore them.. i don't think they deserve another chance! if they hurt u in the past..more than once than thats just enough... and after like 3 years they come back frm no where!!! like HELLOOOOO what do they want?!?!?!
i mean how sure are u that they wont repeat their same actions and hurt u! u dont need them in ur life..
then again its up 2 u.. im just giving u my opinion :)
u know me.. i wouldnt care less about them..they chose not 2 have me in their life..its their lOSS :)
Aisha said
thanks guys ...Azilana7037, thank you for your kind reply I loved the metaphor and all :-D
Qatari, I appreciate your reply bro! Thanks for the push!
Qatar Girl, what can I say, you’re right. I wish I could be THAT definite.
habeebah86 said
You can give them another ...You can give them another chance, but don't trust them, they have to earn the trust. You can't also fix them, all you can do is be a friend, but keep a wall between you and the person. If it was me, I won't let them back fully into my life. Maybe it's just me, I find it difficult to say no, especially if you feel sorry for the person. In summary, be a friend but keep a distance. As they say, "Once bitten, twice shy".
Aisha said
habeebah86 ...Thanks for the reply. So you're like me! I can't say NO.. when I say it it really hurts lol more than it actually hurts the other person..
I guess I'll just ignore as Qatar Girl said.
subs said
Aisha, Don't ignore them. ...Aisha,
Don't ignore them. Maybe, in course of time, they have learnt their mistakes, repented and understood the value of your friendship.
They are coming again to you to seek your hands.
If your gut feeling says, they haven't changed - then ignore BUT if you see a change in their attitude - then as our good friend habeebah said "Speak to them but maintain a distance".
Cheeeers and Keep smiling
Aisha said
subs ...I'm almost sure they didn't change.. They didn't say they are, they never said they want to.. anddd I have no idea where they got my # from! We’re so different in age and other things!!! I’m youngerrrrr and I’m playing the role of the mommyyy! This is just unhealthy.
I'm telling you: they are as creepy as they ever were.. You can tell only by reading the sms! They need professional help, I just KNOW I can't do that, I'm just not qualified. You think Cho Seung-Hui would’ve allowed his "friends" to help him out?
Beside, I don't wanna be known as a "friend" of theirs. It's selfish of me but I'd really love to maintain my good reputation around.
You know, this is the kind of relationship that drains you so badly to the point that you question their intentions and believe they are just jealous of your success and want to be your friends just to make sure you don’t have any more good times as long as they don’t!
This is sad, really sad. I really feel sorry for them.
I’ll try to be as nice as I could be.. and I’m gonna end this by myself. Qatar Girl offered to take my phone and do the job :-) but I think this is something I need to do on my own. May God be with me!
subs said
No soft-feelings ...Well, in that case, just put an end and get them off-your-mind quick....
Cheers and Keep smiling!!!
Aisha said
subs ...yes yes that's what's gonna happen :-) I couldn't see it THAT clear untill I posted this blog lol
charmed said
are you talking ...about me and my texts??? he he he lol hun!
I know how you feel have had friends like that in my past, too many friends like that who use you and abuse you, and you always forgive them! I just ditched them - ignored the telephone calls, emails and messages ! Stay strong and dont let these people get you down! Your amazing girl and these people dont deserve to have someone as sweet as you in there life!
Aisha said
charmed ...Thank you soooooo much!! This is exactly what I wanna hear hehe..
I didn't answer the calls or sms since the blog post.. yaay I can ignore Go me Go lol.. really I've never been a good ignorer before, this is kind of new for me and I'm NOT hating myself for it, which is new too :-D
Charmed I didn't attend a lecture today. The positive energy you sent to me was just too strong (heheheheheee) that I preferred to skip a class only to spend the time studying for the other.. and I did GREAT I think I’m getting a straight A!!
You know what class I skipped? The presentation thingy class ewww.. yuckkk I knowww ! QATAR GIRL, can you comment on that?
Naima01 said
Hey Aicha , it's such a nice ...Hey Aicha , it's such a nice blog you have , keep the hard work .
To comment on your thread , i think you should stand by this person , try to help them and guide them to the right way , remember that we are human and we all make misteake ,but then we ask forgiveness form Allah , but just stay aware and don't forget the past , try to take lesson from your last experience and don't trust them . Forgive and don't forget .
Good luck
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong
Aisha said
Thanks ...Hi there!
Naima honey, walla I did forgive ( and actually forgot most of the stuff). But I decided to forgive AND maintain my intelligence, though they apparently are underestimating it so badly hehe
I can’t do anything when I question its effectiveness THAT much. Otherwise I’d be doing it for myself. i.e. To make the three of "ME, MYSELF and I" feel good that "they" (the three I mean hehe) did something "good" no matter what the impact on others is. It’s like sacrificing one’s life for the sake of the sacrifice itself.. It IS a selfish, yep extremely and surprisingly selfish, action that leads to an outrageous waste of life.