Pregnant and Not Married in Qatar

I'm from the US, and working in Qatar under my own sponsership. I found out when I was back in the US for the holidays that I'm pregnant. I need to find an OBGYN here in Doha, as I will be here for a while yet. Does anyone know if the hospital will give me problems or refuse to see me because I'm not married? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

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Out of wedlock pregnancies are illegal, u can get in trouble if they find out ur not married. My advice is get out of here asap. I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield
Oh Dear... what to do? please seek help and reference urgently. Sorry no experience or knows somebody have the experience. Hope nothing will happen to you. Everybody is right and Everybody is wrong, its depend where you stand
get out of here at earliest or will be jailed and deported. [img_assist|nid=21285|title=.|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]
but generally you will be refused by the doctors, and moreover, they must report this case and you might get lashed/jailed and deported.. it is by the law... but... Qatar is changing...who knows? ******************************************** Whatever Makes You Happy...
jesse, what cornellian said is right. you have to either leave qatar before its too late or have to get married. Normally these private clinics will not ask for a marriage certificate. but if by any chance u have to go to Hamad, they will definetly ask for marriage certificate.
Don't go to the doctor, they will report you to the police, go home as soon as possible. That's your only option. "How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco
qatarsun..... lash is my topic. u hijacked it. Or maybe I was late in commenting. Jesse: do get the he** out of Qatar ASAP. u might get help from a doctor whom u know but that will be unofficial. U cant take chance in this country. come back (If u have to) after ur delivery back home and with a marriage certificate (if not a husband) [img_assist|nid=60386|title=.|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]
will not check your marital status. YOu can get care while you are here in Qatar, but you must get out before it starts to show and definetely do not risk to have the baby in Qatar
Are you 100% sure butterfly. Personally I wouldn't risk it, if they suspect something they could report her. "How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco
if you are not sure 100% about anything then leave it. Private clinics have to report on monthly basis. [img_assist|nid=21285|title=.|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]
And why only Doctors.. could be reported by anyone. Aren't there more sadistic people in the world than we think [img_assist|nid=60386|title=.|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]
I wouldn't even risk going to a private clinic, can't trust anyone. I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield
SKDKAK, I'm sure there are some people on this site that would report her in a second if they knew who she was. :( "How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco
will make sure in 2020 we shift to hawaii ok :D [img_assist|nid=21285|title=.|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]
take the advise of everyone here to leave the country as early as possible rather than being deported...it has to be that way, no other options.. [img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
it will be considered an illegal pregnancy, once known to authorities, they can detain you for it...
Gypsy.. what i have been told about the entire ME is anything (I mean ANY & EVERY damn thing) that we talk or chatt on telecommunication is tapped. So, give her advice not to divulge her name or contact here AND never tell her QL id to any soul to the outside world.. thatz untill she lands in her country. [img_assist|nid=60386|title=.|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]
Thank God she has a country she can return to. "How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco
did u mean "not married" or "not married in qatar"? if d later is true, see a doctor... no prob. Life’s……...[img_assist|nid=61048|title=...|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]TRUE BLUE
Deji. she is not married at all. [img_assist|nid=60386|title=.|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]
Contact a lawyer and ask, or contact labor department, or read about such laws. You must be careful though, , i don't know, better ask a professional
or go back to the states get married or have an abortion (if you dont want the baby)
jesse,i went for my initial pregancy tests and consultation in a private clinic and they didn't ask for a marriage certificate from me. but when i went to Hamad, they wanted my marriage certificate and Husband 's passport details to open a file. so as per everyone replies, i think its better if u can go home at the earliest and come back after delivery.
dont go to Hamad for check up...they have a policy covering illegal pregnancy in Qatar...surf the net for your any other option since u are an American citizen, ask your embassy for any help they can extend to you
Do you have a trusted close friend in Doha? Have you thought about asking them if they have a friend doctor (preferably a foreign one, who comes from the same culture, to understand you better than others) they full trust and can confide to?? But if there is risk, as some members posted here, then I would advocate their opinion of having to leave. But folks, cannot she say to any clinic doctor she is married? do they check her marriage contract as part of admin paperwork?? Even where she lives, she can pretend, only if asked, that she is married to someone in the States. Would that work??
They'll ask for her marriage certificate Happy Happy. And if anyone reported her she risks prison time and possibly lashes. There are a couple of women now who are sitting in prison because they had children here out of wedlock, awaiting lashes and deportation. "How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco
nib nib
marry me:p
u are too young NIB [img_assist|nid=60386|title=.|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]
private clinics dont usually require a marriage certificate. i had a friend she often visit the American hospital for some obstetrics opinion not once have they asked her to give them any such docs...but she use to pay with my creit card just in case they will inquire ( im married )
Gypsy, I thought she could get around it somehow, if she felt she had to stay in Doha for work. But now, I am thinking she must leave in fear for her and the baby's life as well. I am sorry for that Jesse. Salaam
I cannot imagine the American Hospital would ask for marriage contract as a requirement! But yet again, she might not be a US citizen. Are all nationalities allowed treatment there?
i hope everything ends well for you and your baby...im sure you're in a lot of stress thinking of this things...im praying for you and your little angel's safety...
everyone is welcome to visit, for as long as you can pay your bill...
go to the american embassy they shall guide you with the procedures you should take, and if needed they would protect you. but the embassy will not support you under one condition if you are caught by the government first then there is nothing the embassy can do to help you out... my advice is straight to the american embassy before taking any of the advice written by the others. get their feedback on it, and use their advice! end of the day they are giving you official advise!
I went to Doha Clinic, American Hospital and ohter private doctors and not even once was I asked for my marital status. However the public health centres will ask you one inmediately. It would be wise, thought, to put a ring on your finger when you visit the doctor. And many congratulations. A baby is always a blessing, no matter how adverse the circumstances around you are. take care of yourself.
Normal they will check your marital status only when u be ready for deliver, but may be because you are not arabic they will do it 1st
Happy: Better to be sorry now than getting things worse at a later date. [img_assist|nid=60386|title=.|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]
carefuliy read all d comments herein... and get back to us QLERS once you're thru with it all. everyone would love to know how it all went down. good luck jesse. Life’s……...[img_assist|nid=61048|title=...|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]TRUE BLUE
... some of above comments are true....being pregnant out of marriage is not accepteable here... yes, you have prenatal check up to some private clinics without askingfor your marriage contract but be careful because some might have ask you for that document later on... so, better now u have to leave Qatar and go back to your country... or else you will be jailed here if authorities will know your pregnancy out of wedlock....how many months are you pregnant? some airways wont allow pregnant without doctors permit to travel..( if your tummy is noticeable already or if u would tell them u are pregnant) sure they will ask for that doctor's letter.. ...actually,,, im pregnant also now ,,,,but married .....its not easy to be pregnant if u are alone and your partner isnt there to assist u... take care.....if u need a friend to talk..just PM me...
pREGNANT OUT OF WED LUCK ... YOU MIGHT BE IN jAIL OR DEPORTED ..A FRIENDLY ADVISE ..SOON YOU MUST GET OUT TO THE COUNTRY OR TELL TO YOUR FIANCEE TO COME HERE AND MARRY YOU..
Hehehehehehe.. wed LUCK who has become LUCKY after wedding ????? Anyone out there whoz not with me [img_assist|nid=60386|title=.|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]
get out - seriously - get out also for single ladies if you go to the gyno don't answer any questions about 'current partners'. medo Q - I beg to differ... they check your marital status if you just go to the doctor - not if you are pregnant only.
Too late . We got her IP and we have already reported the case to the Authorities :D Sorry I couldn't help it when I read Gypsy stupid comment " SKDKAK, I'm sure there are some people on this site that would report her in a second if they knew who she was. :( " P.S : We= Islamic Mafia :) [img_assist|nid=61287|title=|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0] Some are Wise ... Some are ...Otherwise
QL friends have given you so much informations so far, I hope you should listen to them.
poppin, she's certainly miles away from her computer. Some "paranoiac" on here have succeeded to frighten her to death. [img_assist|nid=61287|title=|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0] Some are Wise ... Some are ...Otherwise
where is jesse looks like we all has it again new ID and all
Jesse ... if you know who is the Father then get married to him? otherwise you better leave the country since it is an illegal affair in this country. Gypsy,, do we need to mention to her that she might be traced ? Govt knows that for Non Muslims it is common practice, therefore they will not bother to take such action. Secondly technology is so advanced that even from your PC you can trace anyone's IP address or get location ?? [img_assist|nid=53652|title=|desc=|link=none|align=center|width=|height=0]
Chupa ... i noticed the same ! thas why you can read my comments about the unknown father ;-) [img_assist|nid=53652|title=|desc=|link=none|align=center|width=|height=0]
you can get traced only if in PM or you send a email
this is definitely a work of a troll
:) sounds like a good time 2 get married:) if not now, then when?:) good luck http://hasous.spaces.live.com "missiles, warships and nuclear weapons cannot establish security. Instead they destroy what peace and security build." Anwar Sadat
leaving on a jet plane ...ASAP ...is a good song for you !!
Has anybody heard of Pregnancy by AIR? I have heard about it, get on a plane and leave. AMERICAN WOMAN PREGNANT OUT OF WEDLOCK? I wonder what kind of options a moslem woman has If she is pregnant out of wedlock? The Red Pope of Qatar Living
Jesse, even you able to keep that until the expected date, still no way out, the father is from here or there, if you are not married, you will be jailed until you give birth and hundred lashes will be rewarded to you. Don't try to get married here, at your condition, still you wil not be excused of being pregnant before marriage. Go home, and give birth and come back.
You actually believe the 100 lashes? The Red Pope of Qatar Living
Yes i do, one filipina had, who happened to be my friend, but long time ago, and she told me how they do, everyday they give her lashes until she was out.
the lady (jesse the poster who hasn't spoken yet) said: "I'm from the US, and working in Qatar under my own sponsership. I found out when I was back in the US for the holidays that I'm pregnant". Sweetheart, if you are and have been working here, and bright enough to have your own sponsorship, then you must surely KNOW how it is in these parts, better than I do, when it comes to Islamic ways! Jesse you say USA, but your profile says Canada, please don't tell me the Canadians are more ignorant than Americans when it comes to living abroad..... God help us all Lord, keep Your arm around my shoulder and Your hand over my mouth
Even if she managed to give birth in a private clinic with no questions asked wouldn't there be a problem with the baby getting care with an unmarried mother? Wouldn't they require info from both parents? At any rate... hope Jesse is buying her ticket back as we speak.
someone got bored and tried to entertain him/herself and all of us..lol *********************** Whatever Makes You Happy...
what do you think after reading all these comments her mind will be in state of peace and stable to take/handle the situation she is in normally. She really might be scared to death after reading all this. and hope she is planning to get out of here as soon as possible. [img_assist|nid=21285|title=.|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]
i got your point... understandable.. I would have got a heart attack by now... that's why i always say: why wouldn't you guys use the protection?.. keep your condoms handy..lol... *********************** Whatever Makes You Happy...
hmmm hmmm hmm hmmm well most like it the natural way :D [img_assist|nid=21285|title=.|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]
I;m sorry Toad, but what was exactly stupid about my comments? Would you recommend she put personal information on here? Do you personally know every single person who reads QL and can vouch that no one would report her? I have my doubts about that. As for all this advice for her to marry the guy, she may not know who the father is or want to marry him, and if she did want to marry him I'm sure she WOULD be married to him or not looking for advise of being a single mom. "How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco
Eve Eve
If you have a baby here unmarried the baby would be taken away as they would assume the babies father could be a national. Once your situation become known you can get in trouble.
We haven't seen her in awhile. Was it a prank or did she get out of dodge?
Hmmmm I better quit fooling around... I don't wanna get prego... And condoms don't fit me.... Oh what should I do... You can't teach experience...
then its worthless chop it off that prick [img_assist|nid=21285|title=.|desc=|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]
Ha ha....NEver.... What the chance of me getting prego anyway LOL On a serious note... I didn't see anything about getting lashes in the welcome to qatar book... Ouch You can't teach experience...
Check out the latest Marhaba book. Imbedded in some of the graphics are lashes. Look closely!
Who made you pregnant?
Hmmm mir, I'm guessing a man made her pregnant, but then it might just be me and my crazy ideas ;) Arabianfairy, I don't think she should call any hospital, she can easily be tracked. I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield
If I knew you I'd report you. It's illegal- plain and simple. At least have your baby abroad and then come back.
you know the ones..genetically altered... and as far as things being illegal..there's a LOT of things going on that are illegal but don't get punished...why always the women??? Bajesus..if she comes back with the baby, which she would since she didn't say she was giving it up for adoption..would she be let in since she was an unwed mother?? Isn't THAT illegal also here?
Ofcourse I'd report her. And yes I would apply it to every illegal behavior ;-)
you'd be expected to get lashes and jail time or stoned, depending upon the charges
Hey I will marry you if your hot???? But the father better pay some serious child support.... Maybe its a rich qatari??? :) Fixed the typo Sowwy Don't be jealous Butter... You can't teach experience...
I mustsa had the english version LOL You can't teach experience...
So do they wait until the third trimester??? Or can you plead guilty and get em out of the way??? Or do you have to wait til after the baby dropps??? So confusing... Anyway you can't fly after a certain date... So.... Good luck You can't teach experience...
I think you should call some of the hospitals here and ask about it, but don't call from you mobile.. try to call from work or something.... and what ever you do don't call Hamad hospital... you might want to try Doha Clinic,, or American Hosipital.. All the best wishes! I don't think anyone here can give you an answer unless they have personally experienced it. Be Safe Fairy
I don't think they have people at the hospital just waiting for her call...to track her... of course common sense she is not going to give her name.. just ask a question.. and don't make it from your mobile.. any land line that you can get that has nothing to do with u... how are they gonna find her out of all the females in Qatar... I am sure she is not alone. Who or what or when she got pregnant with is none of our business she is just asking for help. This is a serious situation in this country so just be careful who you tell... and if you feel better than just leave it is probably the best thing you can do... Trust me you don't want to get caught in this country pregnant without being married... you will be jailed! Many people in jail now for that... Not trying to scare you... just trying to help you... beside in the end of all this your American.. your safe... you have the embassy behind you.. you might want to call them and ask about that situation... what you should do ... they will give you the best advice and the only answer to your question. Cheers.... Fairy
I use to have an American friend last year that got pregnant in Qatar... she didnt even know until she went for a check up to the American Hospital. They didn't do anything to her... She had to have an operation and stayed for 3 nights in the hospital and than got out and went back to work. She did loose her baby.. but she never got introuble... just got fired a few months after this incident,, i dont know if preganancy had anything to do with it or not.. but just to let you know i am here if you need anyone to talk to ... u can always send me a message. be safe fairy
What planet are you on?
I just read the last few posts on this thread, and that really made me laugh. I guess it's Friday ... relax at home with a half bottle day or, in Bajesus', case was probably Thursday night out. :D Lord, keep Your arm around my shoulder and Your hand over my mouth
I remember your debate in a previous thread with Mystica in which Mystica advised a person how to bypass the two year ban if he has dual citizenship. I hope you also remember it. I guess a lot has changed since 2007.
No one answered my questions???:( You can't teach experience...
No one answered my questions???:( You can't teach experience...
victimless crime according to you... I am sure "whatever spiritual, commonsense, non-mullah dominated, etc" version of Islam you follow, considers pre-marital sex a crime against religion and society. I am not judging jesse... but we live in a qatari society and if they think that premarital sex is a crime then it is... and we have to honor it.
THe son of a member of this forum here was reported to the police because of drinking a soft drink during Ramadam in a public place. How she told it, it appears that he had taken the precaution of finding a hidden place in a park where he could sip his drink. Someone saw him and called the police. How pathetic is that?
If a person was thirsty and tried hiding in a place where he could not be seen and totally out of sight, to have a sip of soda/water during Ramadan, and one followed them in doubt, hoping to report to authorities, I'd say the latter is a sick aggressive ignorant psycho.
If this Mutawa was for real, a little bit of mercy in his heart, would've made him look away and even smile in appreciation for the effort that person made to be out of sight! He never knew if that person was sick, exhausted, non-Muslim, on medication, a senior citizen or in any other condition. Haven't they heard that Allah loves His creation even more than a mother loves her children?? Where is the mercy and curtsey that make us humans? Salaam
jesse, Mr.Owens bandido got you, very air pregnant? Tell me more about your own sponsorship deals? and trolling habits... The Red Pope of Qatar Living
My Confession Booth is full of glass houses, but the problem is that they are all broken and smashed in the heart. You got to love the one's that confess "NO Fornication or adultery" in Doha. But is OK to fornicate in Dubai and Bahrain and to do as they wish like God does not exist and is not watching. The Red Pope of Qatar Living
Well Baj, if you really are going to turn in everyone who is breaking the law in Qatar can you please stay away from me and my friends. Thank you. It was nice knowing you. "How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco
My Confession Booth won't turn you in. It will broaden your heart and lighten your shoulders girl. My Confession Booth is well lighted, I got Disco Lights, Ultraviolet lights and the big crystal ball installed for you only. and I-tunes player with a large selection of your choice.. The Red Pope of Qatar Living
its a big problem here in QATAR pregnancy out of wedlock. esp when u go to HAMAD HOSPITAL for check up..hamad needs marriage certificate & passport of your husband when you open a file..be careful..dont go to HAMAD go to Private Clinic they are not asking for marital status.. CONGRATS!!!HAVE A HEALTHY PREGNANCY..
I've been reading the posts regarding pregnancy out of wedlock. My situation is different. I got married here in the embassy and already obtained a marriage certificate from them. I was 3 months pregnant then. Would it still get me into trouble at the hospital (hamad)? I knew a doctor from hamad and he said that as long as you have the proper documents, there's no need to worry but he will still double check for me. Can anyone advise me pls? Better I find out earlier so that I'll know what to do next. Thanks! Would gladly appreciate any help.
Try to get a copy of your sister certificate if she is married, or brother whatever... and do some photoshop for you, get a ring in your finger and voila. I know people that have been married with fake certificate to bring a girl to the country... so this can work for u. The Venezuelan Sensation!!!
Jesse.. where you lost?? already onboard the flight??.. Now that they all have given you the most valuable advice which you needed badly. and no response?? Do respond and update us wht u gona do.. ______________________________________________ Live, Let Live, & Help Live..
Eve Eve
I don't know if its fact but I have been told a child out of wedlock here gets put in an orphanage as they won't know who the father is! I am sure the American Embassy will tell you to leave have the baby then return, I doubt they lash anyone but again you might have to give up your child not worth the risk.
Dear, try to be out of the country before its too late.There is know other option in this country.
DEAR....GET MARRY HERE WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND IS THE BEST WAY TO GET RID FRO THIS KINDA TROUBLE... OR GO FOR ABORTION IN YOUR HOME COUNTRY & RETURN BACK TO QATAR.. OTHERWISE YOU KNOW....VERY WELL ABOUT QATAR LAWS... BYE WISH A BEST TIME...
DEAR....GET MARRY HERE WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND IS THE BEST WAY TO GET RID FRO THIS KINDA TROUBLE... OR GO FOR ABORTION IN YOUR HOME COUNTRY & RETURN BACK TO QATAR.. OTHERWISE YOU KNOW....VERY WELL ABOUT QATAR LAWS... BYE WISH A BEST TIME...
DEAR....GET MARRY HERE WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND IS THE BEST WAY TO GET RID FROM THIS KINDA TROUBLE... OR GO FOR ABORTION IN YOUR HOME COUNTRY & RETURN BACK TO QATAR.. OTHERWISE YOU KNOW....VERY WELL ABOUT QATAR LAWS... BYE WISH A BEST TIME...
There is no reply from Jesse.. Cany we leave this Topic to rest until she replies???? ----------------- HE WHO DARES WINS
Anyone here to get marry ...with her...so she can get rid from this critical situation....!!
u know how u got pregnant??or u forget...all or its really...............
must be very busy. Day and night. He says he will report "every" illegal activity in qatar. So he is constantly reporting all the people smoking in the malls and the traffic violations? That alone will be a 24 hour a day job.
I read this yesterday but didn't reply cos can't advise and most people would notice that it's been more than 9 months since the thread started. Jesse's probably long gone, after some of your prudent advice (I mean it. No sarcasm there). As for the dragging up of an old thread, the drag-er had a valid question although I think she might get that helpful doc in a bit of a quandry. Hopefully not.
I don't know how he is reporting Illegal activities in Qatar from His closet because the time I saw this guy I mean Gay. He was a fag. He is just jealous cause he cant get pregnant as much he get nailed. Am I right or Wrong you bajesus clown!!! The Venezuelan Sensation!!!
It's a matter of time. First, they let us to wear shorts and open sexy tops, then to have alcohol, and then they let the Western Ladies to have as many babies as we want without being married! I don't know if they let the same for Asian-Indian women, probably not.