I am a Mother
The officer at the Driving License counter asked the lady "What is your occupation?"
The woman seeking renewal of her license seemed to be puzzled. So the officer said "Ma'am, are you employed, have your own business or........
The woman replied "Oh, yes!! I have a full time occupation. I am a Mother"
Officer: "We don't have 'Mother' as an option for occupation. I will write it down as 'Housewife'. That takes care of all questions."
This had happened long ago, and was forgotten. Years later when I went to get my license, the Public Relations Officer was a somewhat pompous woman.
"Your occupation?" she asked in a rather authoritative tone.
I just had an inspiration and replied
"I am a researcher in the field of Child Development, Nutrition and Inter-personal Relationships"
The lady officer stared at me in amazement. I calmly repeated my statement and she wrote it down verbatim. Then, unable to conceal her curiosity, she politely asked "What exactly do you do in your profession, Ma'am?"
I was feeling good about having described my occupation so calmly and confidently. So I replied "My research projects have been going on for a number of years (Mothers never retire!!). My research is conducted in the laboratory as well as in the field. I have two bosses. (One is God and the other is my entire family). I have received two honours in this field. (A son and a daughter) My topic is considered to be the most difficult part of sociology.(All moms will agree!!). I have to work more than 14 hours every day. Sometimes even 24 hours are not enough and the challenges are tougher than many other professions. My compensation is in terms of mental satisfaction rather than money"
I could see that the officer was thoroughly impressed. After completing the licensing formalities, she came to the door to see me off.
This new viewpoint about my occupation made me feel much better on my way back home. I was welcomed by my 5 year old research assistant at the door. My new project (my 6 month old baby) was energetically practicing her 'music'.
I had earned a small victory over the Governmental red tape today. I was no longer 'merely a Mother', instead I was now a highly placed functionary in a service vital for Mankind -Motherhood!!
'Mother' - Isn't it a great title. Fit to be added to the nameplate on the door!! By this standard, grandmothers deserve to be called Senior Research Officers, and Great Grandmothers qualify as 'Research Directors'. Aunts and other ladies of that age group can be called 'Research Facilitators'
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Mimi.......Mother have to take lead in inspiring a child and all others follows. It is possible in our home country but not possible in Qatar for expatriates like us. Children also have to sacrifice certain things similar to their parents.
Allright, then let him suffer.
My child doesn't know it's Mother's Day. He barely knows what his feet are (but boy do they taste good!). But my husband knows. :D
But how does your child know it's Mother's Day? You have to teach him/her this religion first!
It's going to be my first Mother's Day!!!! (does little dance :D)
Advance happy mom's day to all the moms out there.
Yes Victory they do, but providing that is not the soul job of the mother. They need it from their fathers, siblings, aunts and uncles, mentors as well.
It really does take a village to raise a child.
Good post Mmimi :)
Nobody ask for 100% time for children;
children needs quality time and strong inputs to build the family and positive contribution to the society.
Mother's have always worked. The very idea of a "stay at home mother" is a relatively new (past hundred years or so) idea. In the original hunter-gatherer tribes, women would have had to spend the day gathering food. While the child was small and breastfeeding they would have taken the infant with them, but once weaned (normally around 6 months of age) they would have been left with older children and the elderly. Ditto when we turned into an agricultural based society. Every able bodied adult would have been needed to work the fields and take care of the livestock from dawn till dusk.
Even amongst the wealthy women didn't take care of their own children, they would have been left with wet nurses and the women would have gone to court, or traveled with their husbands, etc. It would not be uncommon to only see your children a couple of times a year.
Really, it was only with industrialization, that men could earn enough money to feed the family without the help of the wife (and really that only applied to the newly created Middle Class) poor women still would have had to work and wealthy women still would have relied on nannies.
So really, just being a mother and devoting a 100% of our time to raising a child, is not the natural thing.
Yes this social change will have effect on the society we live in now a days!
Alas, the scenario is bad;
the ultimate responsibility burdened with Single Parent.
Changes in the social trends and its bad consequences should be taken as a moral lesson.
High time to go to basics again to fulfil the responsibilities assigned.
Victory. As the mothers are absent from the home and at work, I guess we will get a generation which is also absent..:)
building Next Generation to hold the FORT strongly and future leaders
Nice to read this .. It is really true with the present day intelligent kids who are smarter and more intelligent than the parents!
What I don't understand is when Women say that they are a working Mother, like Miss Mimi. Is there any better job that just being a mother, rather having to do another job all because you think you not good enough to take care of your own kids?
Yes I know I just opened the flood gates..:)
u mean back to basic.
Todays children are used to modern life style with all hi-tech amenities, they could not survive in villages.
In fact, even villages are NO more exist (from India perspective). Due to deforestation/urbanisation makes animals life miserable and they find difficult to get shelter or refuge in urban areas.
family and outdoor. agree.
altho cities are a most, i do "like" to live in a village less than an hour drive from the city. taking advantage of both. oh! village mean village not suburbia.
LOL. Bit of both drsam.
Children need the outdoors, but I do think that cities can offer a lot of the same things as villages.
What I was referring to is that they need more than just a mother and father. They need mothers, fathers, grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, cousins, friends, etc.
Miss Mimi u do mean litteraly "children need a village"
as to the scenery, nature, animals (wildlife/farm), greenery...?
or u meant they need more than a father and a mother to raise them?
if literaly, i absolutely agree; a village is the best place IMO for raising kids.
My mother was good for emotional support when I was younger. Kisses for scraped knees and all that. But when I was older and needed emotional support and advise, my father was always the one I went to. He always gave me no nonsense advise, even about boyfriends, and never got angry or upset. Whereas my mother would.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again, children need a village.
I don't agree nabunabeeb......
mother takes pregnancy pains; while father console and provide moral/emotional support :)
Father could provide much more than a mother beside financial support, care and professional guidance to make children Independent and live their own life, rather holding mother's fingure all the time.
God has created both with assigned duties...mom n dad, both plays a vital role in bringing up the child.....its not like mom replaces dad o something....so we can say both...motherhood n fatherhood :)
emotional care comes naturally from a mother.
But a father can provide much more than a mother beside financial support, care and professional guidance
maybe it apply to you brit, but doesnt to many fathers whom i know, not even to my own father not forgetting the fact that all financial aid was from his side, but mother contributed more she understands me more than anyone.
I concur with you BRIT
Anybody heard about todays Fathers are better Mothers?
"I was feeling good about having described my occupation so calmly and confidently. So I replied "My research projects have been going on for a number of years (Fathers never retire!!). My research is conducted in the laboratory as well as in the field. I have two bosses. (One is God and the other is my entire family). I have received two honours in this field. (A son and a daughter) My topic is considered to be the most difficult part of sociology.(All Fathers will agree!!). "
So, it can apply equally to mothers or fathers..
Let me write down that to make a short form for your profession.
Wow what a great abbreviation!!!
really good and salute to all mothers, Home makers, future society makers.......
Anybody heard about todays fathers are better mothers.
Who said anything about replacing a mother sajmarhab? Seriously, LEARN TO READ!!!!!
Never ever Mimi, a Father cannot replace Mother... I dont know in which world you are living....
How doesn't it apply to fatherhood? Surely father's have a hand in raising their children? What kind of father's do you people have if this doesn't apply to them?
no brit i dont think this applies to fatherhood...
Hi to all moms & you are doing great jobs.
No brit not at all, Mother is mother, Father cannot replace as Mother....
We could Brit. I know this all applies to my hubbie. :)
Can we not say the same about Fatherhood ?
Couldn't agree more! Like one QLer had this signature line: Motherhood the hardest job you'll ever love!
Shalla - Your Husband is absolutely correct. Otherwise how you spend all your time in QL and Internet :)
A mother(more specifically house wife) deserves " Employee of the Year" award not only for her sincere and hard work but also because she works for free (no monetary gains). How many of us both males and females are ready to work (outside our house)free of charge. Very very few i guess if you answer honestly !
very nice share... :) thanks
My mom is the best!
A proud mom..
I must forward it to my husband, who thinks that i am just rolling around all day long and do nothing. You manage to put it together just perfect!
OK researcher, keep ur good work, the society really need many like you
wow! sooo nice!