why asian guys can't get white girls

From what I've seen it's usually because of money...

'Easier catch', 'expensive to keep', whew!

I wish you could have been more subtle here... Nobody is a 'good catch', buddy.

If you find someone who reciprocates your feelings, the question of being expensive doesnt arise. Chances are, one wouldnt let the other bear everything on their own. Isnt that the basic principle of love? Care and share?

Or have i lost it and become too old already?

OK - Qatari, I volunteer to start the group named "Stupid Stereotypes and Generalizations." So, instead of having these retarded posts every 3 days, we'll just have a group and everyone can go there and free up the board for more important things like cell phone ads and salary questions.

How many Asian guys do you see over here, sheer weight of numbers, I would think. Ok but my fiancee thinks its because the asian girls here are more westernised and therefore would have more in common with them.

Also there are alot of Asian Girls dating Asian Guys here, perhaps you just don't see them, trust me she is Korean and would know the numbers.

Perhaps you don't notice an Asian/Asian couple but notice an Asian white match more because it sticks in your brain.

I have seen loads of Fillipino Couples out together, and I am told that Fillipino girls would much rather go out with Fillipino boys here as they have more in common and are not just trated as sex objects which we know many Arab guys do.

you can answer the question of which asian group you think much more applicable, wheter oriental, sub-continent or arab.

I think Imz got most of the answer with "easy to keep". Western women don't like to be treated like objects or toys that you either keep or throw away.

Keep in mind also that Western women are used to a fair bit of independence and equality from their significant other, which is hard to get from an Asian man, as many tend to be more traditional.

From my own experience, number one I want to state the money is not a factor in any of my choices since I make my own thank you, I found Korean and Japanese men to be extremely attractive, many (of the younger ones) were willing to accept me as an equal partner, but for the most part I couldn't find one that spoke enough English for me to have a relationship with, and I unfortunatly didn't speak enough Korean or Japanese. So in that case it was a language barrier, because women tend to need to be able to talk to their mates more so than men (no shots intended).

Sub-Continent: I find Indian and Pakistani men to be pretty attractive to, in this case as well it's a language barrier and much more so a cultural and "class" barrier. Indian and Pakistani men tend to be very very traditional which is not something I could deal with. (However I have met some who grew up in England and Canada whom are fantastic, but always either married or have a girlfriend).

Arab: There the guys you love to hate. Good-looking, speak great English, treat you like and equal and a lady...but unfortunatly they are treating at least 3 other girls and their wife like that at the same time. Shame really. :P Also huge religion issue, if you don't want to convert (and sometimes even if you do).

I feel your scorn and I accept it-Jon Stewart

your comment about your friends night out were right. I'm asian and my hubby are european. I treat him like my king, i feel it more and more that he behave like one. hehehe

when i went out with all my friends he was so gummy, taking me a drink and dance with me whenever i want, or left with me if i ask him so. He so dependent on me. or maybe he just like me to let him to pleased me and make me feel like im his princess.

But my life are so different since. with a guy with the same nationality (indonesian) i wont get any treatment like this. They are so bossy and selfish..when they will have little bit of money in their pocket they will go for another fish on the market. oh so obvious!

My father in law are european (ofcourse) looking at him bring breakfast in bed every mornig to my mother in law are so sweet, he treat her like princess even so they are so old now! so idont see any different here that western guy treat their asian or western woman differently. hmmmmm confusing!

to treat western woman like that..hmmm i feel pity for u the male western!

We woman like to be spoiled..all of us..not only material but also spiritual..see what i mean?

Less value as in compared to asians. Trust me I don't know abt this if its true, but I've seen Indain ladies starving whole day due to some spiritual fast or somethin like that to pray for their partner to live more.. I don’t believe in this, but I'm sure non of the western woman can do that. Correct me if I'm wrong. I've seen western marriages run off in 48 hrs.. Not considering Britney Spears for instead, I'm talkin in general. When it comes to suffering, the lady will never suffer in west side, but the lady does suffer all the time in the Asian side. I'm not saying that this is right. I'm saying they have more tolerance thatn westerns. I mean westerners are more rigid.
So far for the money side. Well nowadays it is common that you pay ur share and I do mine, or else the guy pays, but from what u've said it means u've spent a lot on guys who were never worth it. Are you still in the habit of paying for guys, than I'd be more than happy to present you my views over a dinner table. Wouldn't mind if you call me another unworthy guy. But ya for dinner I'm always available.
Lol!! He he he!

Imz, I've seen Western women stay up for days praying for their spouse or child, just because fasting is not part of their religion doesn't mean that western women don't have values! As for 48 hour marriages you can't use Britney Spears or any other celebrity as an example of Western culture, anymore then I could use some Bollywood star as an example of yours. I don't know a single person who's ever married for 48 hours, and with the exception of celeberties have never heard of one last that little bit of time.

Perhaps this is another reason Asian men can't get Western women, they can't seperate TV from reality. Guess what, western women want husbands, babies, safety and security just like any Asian women. :P

I feel your scorn and I accept it-Jon Stewart

Im yet to meet a girl who would pay for there share of anything... every 1 i have ever been out with has cleaned me out :(

Where were u few yrs ago gypsy .. i would have been so happy n rich now :) ... we need a ship load of u here in doha to smooth things out for every 1 :P

Hehehe oh man this is gonna b the start of a lot of racist comments now !!! better strap urself in gyps !!! toodelss !!!

Imz said: "But man that’s how they'r brought up and that’s there side of the world."

You also said: "...Also these white chicks are a bit expensive to keep. well but it is common. I had one before, infact i believe they are easier catch... well guys dont get me wrong here, but I'm tellin you this from my experience..."

And: "...Also White chicks want a lot of freedom, I mean understand freedom, but a lot..Excess of anything is bad. I'm sure all of us agree to this..."

And: "...but you are quite right Western females are of less value once you comapre them to asians..."

What does that say about how you were brought up?

It tells me that you were brought up to have little to no respect for women, that you like to use and discard women callously (women who may actually care for you very much, but you treat them like dirt in return). Your language tells me that you objectify women, you don't relate to them as equals, or even as individuals, fellow human beings.

You say: "...I had one before...", that's *one* white 'chick' and on the basis of that one relationship, with one white woman, you offensively stereotype all white women?

The above tells me all I need to know about how you were brought up.

Imz, when you say: "I've seen western marriages run off in 48 hrs.." are you implying that there are no short-lived Asian marriages?

Fact: I know an East African Asian man, a Pakistan-originating family who moved to Britain around 20 years ago.

His father told him: It's okay for you to date English women to get some 'experience' (nudge nudge wink wink) but you can't marry one.

So much for those high standards when it comes to pre-marital sex. It's bad if a woman has sex before marriage, but it's not only accepted, it's practically obligatory for an otherwise respectable muslim man to have sex before marriage -- so long as it's with white women and not his own kind -- wouldn't want to sully their reputation!

He eventually got married -- it was an arranged marriage, it wasn't forced, i.e. he had a chance to meet his future bride and agree to the union.

When I last met him, he told me his wife left him after only two weeks and he was in the process of getting divorced.

So that's an Asian marriage that lasted only two weeks.

Apparently, it wasn't the only instance either. I was informed there were other cases where brides left their husbands soon after the wedding, taking their dowry with them. As you know a dowry can amount to thousands upon thousands of pounds. And there are some unscrupulous Asian women out there who will marry in order to carry out a scam ripping their groom off to the tune of the dowry.

Do I look down on all Asian men or all Asian women because of the bad behaviour of a very small minority? No.

So how about giving a similar amount of respect to the many white women who you're unfairly slagging off?

actualy the blame is not on the white guy or asian girl...
the blame is on the individual who have lack of confidence expressing them self or initiate an conversation whether it is an asian or white girl. i must admit i was belong on that indvidual with lack of confidennce. i like white girl as much as i like asian girls, but because of my small things... called confidence i end up nothing.

why some people have lot of confidence and while others lack of it?

To rap up it up for sure asian women are much more grounded and realistic in life compared to western women... Although in many cases generally the wife suffers in an asian household but she braves up to it and doesnt flock for freedom instantly...

American females in particular are the most vivid examples of such incompatibility..Believe me i tried meeting a western teacher out here & boy she was really unwilling....

Imz Family life calls for huge responsibilities and to shoulder them is equally tough.... And a western female sets a totally bad example in that scenario......

Stephen Hawkings wife filed for divorce just for the sake of freedom and that he was paralysed......

i think western girls are more comitted then asian sometimes i have lived in delhi for abt 7 yrs frm what i see here n frm my experience i see girls are more materialist at this side of the world. there has been a complet and a very rapid change in culture coz of media boom what is hapening here is the asian girls are trying to be western tyring to copy there way of life style and the western are trying to be more like asian girl as they need more security n stability in a relationship if i am correct few weeks back it was in the newz i would like to name of the new paper also who puplishd the article abt the same issue which we ppl are talking here the name it was Times Of India new delhi edition. in that it was clearly stated that western girls are looking toward asian men as they need more security n stability in there relationship which they are not getting at there part of the world.

well to sum up the whole thing n not to drag this topic very long i feel western women are much better in many ways then there aisan counter part this you can only kno when you get to kno them personally not knowing them frm some media n movies why i am saying this coz i have been in relation with both western girls as well as asian.

may be my comment are racist and might hurt the sentiment of some comunity ppl but all i was trying to do here was to prove my point. i was jus trying to prove my point here.

Yeah foundador it has never happend to me before.. Even I am in search of a female out here Never does such things click....

Sputty I love how you dislike Western women simply because they continue to turn you down. I wonder how much that has to do with your nationality and how much to do with your attitude?

If an Asian woman doesn't flee from an abusive or inadequate relationship it has nothing to do with her loyalty, and everything to do with pressure from her culture. :P

I feel your scorn and I accept it-Jon Stewart

"Perhaps this is another reason Asian men can't get Western women, they can't seperate TV from reality. Guess what, western women want husbands, babies, safety and security just like any Asian women. :P"

Well said Gypsy. I'll agree that asians (more so Indians and Pakis) are bigger culprits when it comes to stereotyping. They tend to to look at Hollywood to formulate opinions on western women.

See my new signature?

Just keep dancing, it will do you good!

ROFL "I have never been able to ACCOST western women" Christ I hope not Sputty! Or we would have to report you to the police.

So Western women are hard to get? Fantastic, defintely beats being thought of as degenerate sluts. :P

I feel your scorn and I accept it-Jon Stewart

you can find lots of those couples in Bali..there is so many western woman marrying indonesian guy in Bali and have lots of kids and look so happy.

From the size indonesian guy is not that big..but Balinese have very nice tanned skin. is that why?eh eh i dont think so.

thats nature secret guys. You will never find the solution when you discuss this..but keep going on with everyone different opinion.

Why dont we talk : "A woman and a guy of my dream " or "10 things I hate from my opposite sex"----> at least you can learn from this.

Hi aviduser,

there is a lot of rubbish written here but atleast you do not seem to be biased towards any continent (READ - Asian / Europeon).

If people dont like to spend on dates.... etc why the h*** blame western females.
I am an Asian myself.
I suppose there are more Asian men who do not have confidence and still live with a feeling of imperialism.

Are all Indian men like that? They say a lot of nice things, treat you nice in public, but do they really listen to their parents that closely? I have met an Indian Man who I could fall in love with but because he is so nice it scares me. Doesn't want me to work, says that his parents are not choosing someone for him. Is this all real or am I looking in the wrong place?

I know I am a late commer in this forum. But i realy felt sad to read ur comment that Asian women are capable of taking more suffering.

Why do u sound like from an age when there was no electricity or gun powder invented.

Why do u need any women to suffer and what great sadistic pleasure u get by that.
I am an asian from India.. but ur comments sucks man....

I will agree with DG... maybe you guys don't need the money, but working is good to keep you active and interacting with different people.
You want to make that decision yourself and not let anyone else tell you what to do. By telling you that he don't want you to work is probably showing you how nice he is and assuring you that he will take care of the monetary part, that is good, but as an individual, I'm sure you'd like to spend your own money.

here not many (western) white girls that is the reason. if u were living in europe u wud have plenty of:p

and comparing asians to westerns... japanese and chinese guys i met were %90 soo shy and quiet. they have different topics to talk different habits etc.

indians i met here some are really nice some maybe a girl wudnt want. bec of cultural facts.

arabs maybe irritating and having bad aims. some may not have. but their culture wud force them to be with a 'good' girl not a free one like westerns so he may have to leave the girl. or even he likes he may consider her for 'fun'

and turks. we are white but i dont define myself as european although we seem like we are some part of it:p

more like arabs. but the good guys amount is a bit more than them. like there may be ones like that but it is decreasing nowadays a guy thinking that this girl is not a good fit for my family and culture so in the end we can consider him as a good guy:)
also not strict like arabs in many subjects..

but yea i am a dominating one! even i dont look so:)

and western girls... they are just girls:)

MissLillywhite I would say you're looking in the wrong direction if he doesn't want you to work.

Unfortunately many Asian guys are just too traditional for us free spirited white chicks. :P

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

U wanna work...its upto u...he doesnt want u to work...that means he is looking at this whole life thing in a diff manner...u need to be out there in the society...have a name...have a living...u dont want to be in a position that u buy gifts for ur husband or freinds...off his money do u...u want to do those things urself...have some of the finer desires of urs ...with ur own money champ...so guess...u shud talk it out...he loves u...u love him...fine...but when it comes to these small things...sort them out now...better now than never u see...

If someone wanted to work...pls i wud be GO AHEAD...i might as well sit in the house...lol...but truly speaking...pls live ur life as u want to ...but end of the day...come back HOME...and give me that TRUST i want...thats all...simple aint it...ppl...>?

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Hey Gypsy, you didn't mention us free-spirited independent Khaleejia chicks!
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Love is the answer...

People who are working in this part of the world have definitely feelings of inferiority complex ...Esp with the low class indians....
Their thrust for money drives them mad.... & they jump to conclusions based on personality traits..... This is true even with the Indian work force over here..... that too the elite work force esp the Indians....

My Bad DG! How could I forget you girls!

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

"Low Class Indians???"............where did THAT come from? Ad hominem style arguments should be avoided at any cost, friend.

On one hand you say that "Indians make judgments bases on personality traits" and then in the same breath you go and make a few judgments yourself? I think that was an extremely reckless, feudal and irrational remark.

"The power of accurate observation is commonly called cynicism by those who have not got it"

Makes women sound like fishing...catches and keepers...Dude, you have to use the right bait and from the looks of your posts..honey, you ain't got it!!! some of the others guys are just the same..Sputnik for one..geezzzzzzz get a grip, man...

"Its nothin to do with size n looks, it sure does with the money. Also I believe communication problem is there, usually u find the asians with good accent, I'm talkin as in majorities n minority. Also these white chicks are a bit expensive to keep. well but it is common. I had one before, infact i believe they are easier catch... well guys dont get me wrong here, but I'm tellin you this from my experience."

BS on the money issue...most women marry men because they love them, period, the end. Money can come along the way, or not at all. Western women ARE independent and yes, that is a great trait because they can always stand strong for their mates when the time comes and its needed. they can also be there for their mates to lean upon when the going gets tough and perhaps they are laid off work or physically disabled. Can someone who was never ALLOWED to work do that? Probably not.

women are women all over the world. You can't put us in a box with a list of traits just because of where we were born. Just for future reference...those men who are looking for mates...treat women with respect and you'll GET respect. Treat women with love and you'll get it back 10 times over. Yep there are bad apples in each bunch..but you know what? the good ones out number the bad one, but you have to look more than just on the surface to find that, and most don't take the time or effort to do that.

Now..on a personal level...I can't think of a race of men that is unattractive. I mean, if I was single, race would have nothing to do with my choice of who I dated or not...nor would money. I would have issues with someone who wished to dominate me and make me less than what I can be or am. Religion might be a bit of an issue simply due to some of the extreme differences, but again..if you love someone, that can be over come.

So guys, stop blaming the women or what race/nationality they are for your shortcomings as a mate. Pull up your jockeys and grow up.

Ohh fiddledeedee.....

and that western women are a mirage NOT reality...

Scarlett, that alone proofs that he less bright than any woman on this planet , besides, Western women will stay a Mirage for him , me thinks....

People, seriously, do u really think the ****** up guy wanted an opinion? He's just sittin back and laughin his *** off seeing all ur replies. Though stupid, but have to give it to him for making u all reply - cool trigger bozo! Good comments pwb78 - am with u.
Lets all try to keep QL freaks-free and not get tempted by such triggers again.

now you see us, now you don't...because we know better

ok Amigo...NOW we know what lurks beneath that cool exterior...

careful what you wish for...someday might come true and then where would you be??? IN DEEP DOO DOO!!!! lol

Asian guys particularly indians are changing now.... But not too significant, they are stuck in medieval ages.....

european asian - euro asian
what is this guys?
jst find 1 who cares abt u mor than anything and thats all
forget abt money, race, culture, traditions, religion and all the other things if u relly love and care abt each other.

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exactly what some of us have been trying to convey throughout this thread.