I feel depressed these days

hmm, that's very typical here in Doha. try and talk to people dear. especially to the ones who you can open your heart too or even just talk to friends and have a hearty laugh, it would feel better. and try and do things also, anything that will take away some of this depressing moment thinking session, :)
and remember there are people who care for you. be better... :)

engage urself in productive activities

I am being your opposite feels the same depression!
Our good friends can make us cheer for a moment.But missing your family after marriage is not like missing your old friends!
Anyway keep yourself busy and dream a better 2morow as there is an end to every happy thing and depression today or the otherday!!!!!!!!!!

I got out of my 8 month long depression today as my family visa application got approved yesterday after processing hurdles(both hear and at home!!!) although i entered Qatar on a family status.Looking for the good days ahead!!!!!!!!!

.hey drama queen of the day..drowning your sorrows????
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.don;t let this happen to you.
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.you take a shower and hit the malls, buy an LV(lol)..
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.or better yet, join the QL Filexpat group, join one event and after that you'll end up, wondering when is the next event...
and worst..
youl develop big eyebags (dahil ikaw ay magiging babaeng walang pahinga)
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then youl totally forget 'sadness",,
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think positively always. Beleive deep in your heart that things are going to go fine as you always want it. If possible try to see the 'secret ' c.d. It motivates towards positive thinking and you would feel that you can overcome any hurdle in life. It has worked for me and many of my close friends.JUST THINK POSITIVE. All the Best

My husband has always depended on me for everything. I am thinking that he is happy there because life there is easier for him. He is with our two lovely daughters,his family and friends plus my family and of course an allowance that he just to get from the ATM Machine. He's so lucky, I envy him. He does not have an idea what I am going through here.
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.now your making me blue.
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.you talk to your husband about it.
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mj, he's working, but I'm paying everything, absolutely everything. I don't know what happens to his cash. One time I asked him, coz I left him some cash before I left for Qatar (70,000) and in a span of 1 month, gone.

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Kakaiyak lng, I'm doing almost everything for the family. If you're a woman, no matter what you do, its never enough.
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.enough already, join us tonight, will go bowling..
.pm me for details....
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.go with us at mag chika tayo magdamagan,(will talk 'til dawn) promise.
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Actually Charan, again I beg to differ. As much as you say you know a lot about Filipinos, this time you're wrong. :) This guy is LAZY.

I just been reading what you wrote...I must say you need to get your husband's ass freaking realizing what you are going through here...otherwise kick his balls up his freaking mouth and then he might realize how much pains you are endorsing here in your daily struggle for their well-beingness...and that jackass (pardon my language) is lazing his azz around...

I will not go back just like that, it's not worth it. He needs to sort things out, he is the problem, not me. **************************
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he's not worth the depression, believe me.. so he's a jerk and an a*hole, and he doesn't care about saving for your kid's future? you know what to do.... ;)

debeers, well then stop being depressed! I'm sure you have lots of friends here. I know it's easier said than done, but you can at least try. Qatar is a fun place especially when you're with great people!

Based on My stays at numerous places like Phagassinan, Buggio, Illucos Sur, Illucos norte, Batangas. Bulacan...... Etc. Etc.in philippines.

Ban Spoon Feeding not Me

janeyjaney - I am sure you never ever been to the places in Philippine where I stayed as a Foreigner

Ban Spoon Feeding not Me

only send money through your parents not him....he's workin there so i dont see why you should send him any money, who knows where he's spendin your hard-earned money...

for sure I will come to that point when I will give him an ultimatum. It's either he comes here or he lose me. I f he does not want to come here, then fine. That means he's showing that I really can not depend on him.
I guess it's also a mistake on my part that I have always been responsible, that he did not have to worry coz I will take care of everything.
Anyway, everything has a limit, we'll see what will happen. Thank you all guys. Have a nice day ahead.
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"for sure I will come to that point when I will give him an ultimatum. It's either he comes here or he lose me."... - i do hope you come to that point soon enough....

May be he is spending the money in a nearby KAROKE joint :)

Ban Spoon Feeding not Me

Not all Filipinos (not Philippinos) are as what you perceived.

Debeers, try to find somebody close to you and deal this thing in a more intent way, not this way of expounding the badside of your husband.

I would presume that as a way to comfort you (as they think), they will even push you to more depression by agreeing with your perception of your husband.

Even if it is true, what good it will give you. My advice, use the PM to discuss this matter as we do not know the whole picture of your relationship.

Cheer up, join us in Filexpat "bonding moments" and we guarantee that your depression will turn to happiness

"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"

Sometimes a person feels better talking to those who dont know him/her and it makes it easier to express whats deep inside.. because u know these ppl do not know u and will not judge u...

Just because she wanted to ask for advice here does not mean she making the bad move.. and with different opinions coming in u cannot generalize and say that she will be pushed into more depression.. but instead she will definitely feel lighter knowing the number of people who actually cared enough to read and give an opinion.. whether supportive or not!

WYSIWYG

If you want to follow Smoke's advice.. which is the best ... i can suggest for u to implement an advice also given by someone else and that is to send money for ur daughters thru ur parents...

thru them ur daughters will be able to get the few extra luxuries that you are working ur a** for here to provide for them there..

how do u know that by sending the money which is disappearing ever so fast that ur daughters are effectively getting what they want?! how do u know its not being spent elsewhere?! maybe it isnt.. but since u are feeling that you are being taken for granted.. then work on it this way..

try to find a way to enforce ur husband to get his act together and come here so u guys can work together and hopefully soon ur children can join u ..

WYSIWYG

some things in life needs to be given deeper contemplation before jumping to any harsh decisions...

you are not obliged to take any bitter pill yet,
depressions can be cured by expressions..

express it out! voice it out! take a breather!
or find a shoulder to cry on!!

by doing these, negative energy build-up will dessipate and your dreadful feeling shall be lightened up.

tonight, go out and have some fun... bowling is fun!

whenever i felt angst in life, i go bowling and imagine the pins are my problems.. then i'd imagine the ball taking the negative energy in me, then throw it as if there is no more tomorow!!!

ALAS, if i strike them out...
i FELT WONDERFUL thereafter!!

why don't you give it a try? SEE YOU TONIGHT ;-)

different people have different ways to see it. Maybe that's your opinion, but mine is different. What I am saying is not applicable to all. Mine is only an advice. Little knowledge is dangerous as they say, our friend debeers is spilling it little by little by your "encouragement" and it will will pull her deeper to depression. Agreeing with her does not solve the problem but maybe, "maybe" compounding it. You are pushing her to the negative solution instead of making the relationship remains and works.

One suggested that she return home and again, "maybe", talk the problem by themselves with the help of their loveones but not by strangers who do not know the whole picture. I suggest that you give positive solutions and don't make things worse as it seems.

"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"

Please call your good friends or call me...PM me..I give you my number.

to go out in the malls...do some window shopping (not necessarily buying). I heard from one psychologist before that this type of therapy helps to ease your depression. Also,as part of being a mother, try to be realistic of the situation. You made your choice to go abroad and you should stand by it. I think the best thing to do is pray,pray for the safety of you kids & family while you're away. That alone can help calm your troubled feelings.

instead of talking to somebody elses, it's your right to discuss to him with whatever bothers you.

i think you maybe taking the worries too far without establishing first some facts.

get his view on why he does'nt want to join you here. and weigh that down, then get other peoples advice if his reasoning still confuses you...

KNOW THE PROBLEM FIRST BEFORE THINKING OF THE SOLUTION!!

I have seen it a lot of time when the wife opted to go abroad (to work) and the husband is left in our country. Most of it ended this way. Temptations in the Philippines, and include the bad economy and high cost of living, the problem of Debeers is happening to a lot of couples.

My advice to all couples close to me, never let the women go abroad without the husband or it's the husband to go abroad and not the other way around.

Debeers, it's your decision or action what matters here. Forced your husband to join you here or go home and be with your family. The present consequnce is a result of an earlier action you made (going abroad without your husband).

Mind you, I know your reasons in going out, but did you not ready yourself for such consequence or the price you have to pay for such decisions?

I still stand by my first advice, joins us in our bonding moments and lessen your depression.

"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"

As I am reading between the lines, it seems that you are trying to point out that I am at fault here. Do you honestly think that if I feel that he can support the family back there, I will be in this place with all the inconveniences?
It is always true that if you are a woman, no matter what you do, it's never enough.
Im out of here.
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you are certainly not at fault...dont listen to those who says so...

debeers...there is this lady who received terrible burns all over her body after being involved in a car accident...and I mean TERRIBLE. She says she allows herself to cry and feel sorry for herself for only one minute and then gets over it.

Keep moving forward, whether or not you get sympathy, be it from your husband, or QLers (who I must say on this thread have been most helpful).

------------Virgos dont like chaos, gerrit? ----------

you ought to confront him now whether or not he is interested at all in joining you here,.. if he says no, then, you'll know what to do, i trust....

hey good for you.... :) im sure you'll do just fine...

"what is more important to you, your work here or being with your children?" Answer? My work here. Why? because if I have my work here, I can support my kids. I am not a type of parent that will sit at home all day and watch my kids when I can not give what they need. I guess it's not difficult to understand.

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