What really can make ur partner happy...

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Google still searching to find out but ............ Pending.

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Global...ohhh pleaseee... That leads me to my next question.. why r gurls so active when in malls doing shopping.. But in house or other events so lazy...cant even walk a meter..

There is matter of giving and taking, find for each other what makes your other half happy, and yes marriage is about, happiness, love, comfort and passion. If it's not then there is no point of getting married or being married.

A married couple completes each other, fills ech others need, comforts each other, makes each other happy.

And sometimes giving up something for your partners happiness gives more joy and a happier marriage.

Nothing can make happy your partner, if you'll bring the star for her she will angry that why you have not carried her along with you or why you've brought only one star.

goodname..what if all u r saying does not happen? Is a separation a consideration?

Its like " Damned if you do, Damned if you don't "...

& not being Over Possessive... Give each other the space...

Its simple..one has to know what his/her partner likes and then try to give it to her/him.

The 'likes' could be as divergent or conflicting as anything..which actually makes it a bit tricky...:)

tcom yeah it's a dream but not a heaven really.. That is the wrong expectations everybody is having. Being married is not a heaven.. it is that u face the reality of life.All the things u never expected good or bad.

and this is not for one but for both partners.

And of course, the spice of married life: intimacy :)

Azilana, Intimacy may be the spice of a married life but the problem is,many men feel, variety is the spice of life itself..

What exactly does intimacy entail ?

from women's point of view:

* respecting her / her feelings / her parents & ppl related to her
* respecting her privacy
* taking responsibility towards ur wife n kids

Spousal relation like any other interpersonal relationship depends on a multitude of factors. These factors are so diverse that the integrity of the relation or a discord in it may be the result of rather different factors in different cases.

It is impossible for any single discourse such as ours to encompass all the aspects of this complicated topic. There is not even consensus on which factors carry more weight than others.

Several research studies have been conducted to understand the factors underlying familial stability and discord. It appears that having a comparable background in terms of socioeconomic status, educational level, intellectual capacity and so forth has a very favorable effect on the long terms prospects of spousal relation stability. On the other hand, having stark difference in these areas often lead to problems. Exceptions are, however, always there.

One very surprising finding is that educational level among women is directly proporation to divorce rate. Yet, in terms of financial and social stability women are more at loss with this increase.

Another consideration to factor in is the set of expectations that each spouse brings to a relation. Obviously, if the expectations tied to the relation are later on not fulfilled, it would create frustration on part of the spouse.

The importance of having a harmonious intimate life in keeping a relation stable need not be further emphasized. To this end, the physical as well as psychological well being of either spouse plays a very important role. Having a chronic illness, particularly a psychological one and or substance related problems significantly enhances the odds of a family falling apart.

Tolerance level within the spouses, the extent to which either spouse can compromise and the availability of options are other crucial factors that play a role.

It must be emphasized some relations still end in discord even with the apparent absence of the negative factors. The converse is equally true.

In 2003, when I was a junior medical student, once when I handed a few articles of mine for publication in the college magazine the guy told me he wont publish my stuff as it 'appeared' to be copied from the internet. When I reminded him what low tastes he had got to consider my amateur writing so hi-fi, he became angry and did not publish a single thing. From the next year on, I was the chief editor of the magazine for several years.

Once one of our professors, himself a Harvard graduate and with a PhD in English, remarked to another professor. This guy writes really good English. And the other professor asked how good. And he replied, "More than you can imagine!"

I really do not find what I write that good. I swear by the God who created me. I know I can write correctly and may be better than several people (I have the highest score on IELTS), but I still do not think I am too good to be believe.

Anyways, you are not the first one to tell me that I copied and pasted. May be you are not even the hundredth.

Hahahaha! mylegal so funny what u have said..

Conciouseffort...respecting her privacy? seriously? Like what?

Azilana.. i agree with u that if a man still looks for variety he should not get married yet..same goes for the women..

I am separated for two times, I tried but i guess I am unfit for marriage life. Marriage is a trial and error, if its error why stay. If the marriage turned to be unhappy, why not find a way out. I pity women who stay married and pretend to be happy but trapped in an unhappy marriage. Life is supposed to be fun. Staying in an unhappy marriage is like committing a crime against yourself. If setting someone free makes your partner happy, then do it. It would be unfair on your part to be be with someone who is with you just because he/ she does n't have a choice.

sounds funny but I think it's true.. All relationships are good at the beginning only. Staying on it for so long makes it a routine. Imagine being with someone 24/7... BORING... Might be nice to have someone you see once a month or twice a year. You might not even have a fight in a lifetime being together

nowadays people get bored easily and they forgot what happiness means... :(

Gracia really i did convince u... nice.. it's always a pleasure to me when i am able to give some people hope for their lives let alone in love.. U know what..u seem a sweet lady and a smart one. Maybe just maybe those past 2 men in ur life were just did not know how to handle u properly. Courtship is a never ending thing for a man.. I think when they found out that u love them then they stopped courting u anymore which is not the case when u truly love a person no matter what. Who knows the next man for u is just around the corner ;)

Gracia really i did convince u ?... nice.. it's always a pleasure to me when i am able to give some people hope for their lives let alone in love.. U know what..u seem a sweet lady and a smart one. Maybe just maybe those past 2 men in ur life were just did not know how to handle u properly. Courtship is a never ending thing for a man.. I think when they found out that u love them then they stopped courting u anymore which is not the case when u truly love a person no matter what. Who knows the next man for u is just around the corner ;)

/-a-t-/ moza err..segmund ;).. nice one..Amen.

Thanks.

useless topic....

Get a life, haha. trust me friend life has nothing to do with partners

The same could apply to women also...

Knight good point there.. For me it is not variety as women..variety more on doing other things than the usual including some space once in a while..Possesiveness is i think a common denominator for women. SO if a man does not know to handle this complications they are headed for worst.

What leads to commitment and fulfilment?

to look outside the nest for variety.

Like I said, if the husband looks for variety,he doesn't love his wife enough to remain monogamous. And for a woman to find out that her partner went out to chuck someone else...THAT would be horrible.

Marriage is A COMMITMENT...making a marriage work is an effort, and if one loves his/her partner to be happy, he/she won't do looking for variety.

I've been through relationships that kept me all broken up and distrustful of men.

That is the same reason why I preferred long engagement. I am sure to myself that when I married my husband, I made a vow to be faithful, honest and trustworthy of his love and his name. And I expect him to give me that dedication as well.

Ok, rant over.

but it layman's term...if one didn't learn from his/her past experiences to make him/her a better person...THAT IS LIFE...

Fatima u have good point there..maybe u wanna add "respect" also.

Segmund i cant agree more.. Very true.

I guess it is good for me to retire to my bed finally. I know we parted in peace, yet the skirmish of wits between us had no yet reached its logical end. Now, we can not fight as equals. You have completed you restful night's sleep. And I have been working with my patients since yesterday morning without sleeping for a moment. :)

Thanks Fatima & azilana..actually wanna ask u both about the 3 important elements of relationship. Do u know what r they?

It would be: 1)Love
2)Honesty and fidelity
3)Respect and consideration
But in truth there is so much more to marriage and long term commitments than just three elements alone. And for sure what I would consider as essential and totally uncompromising matters in a marriage would far defer from another's view.

Fatima Absolutely correct! Love, respect & honesty. Which of the three is the most important? And why?

HAhahaha! gracia u see we r trying to be wholesome here..but seriously sex can also be summed up to make us feel important right..Btw, u can have it without love or relationship.. sorry i disagree partly with u. ANd i dont want to discuss it further bcoz i just think this is not the right forum. It's a never ending topic better to discuss it with a bottle of cuervo gold with orange slices & iodize salt on the side.

I would say its just 'honest love' and not just love where you tell hundred times in a day 'I love you' and as soon as the partner turns back (she/he is not with you at that particular moment arranged by you and typically in Qatar situation, is in the home country due kids have vacations or for business ), you are enjoying with other women/men. All other things, fidelity, respect, consideration, trust etc are all offshoots of an 'honest love'.