Stranger in my bed

Yallah Qler another chance for [Mod Removed] stirring and BS.

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Have Courage To Live.
Anyone Can Die.

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...but can't imagine buying a car without one or a worn out one for that matter.

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Apologies for being so cynical, but why oh why do you always come out of the woodwork with a thread seeking for some kind of attention?

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Another rebellion thread from Superwoman to her own country QAtar!!

tsk!tsk! tsk!!

Exactly blanche, if you grow up in a particular culture or religion, this wouldn't be a surprise. I get the feeling superwoman isn't Qatari ;-)

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and she is one of our Qler

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- A study Conducted by FriedUnicorn - Vol I (September,1999)

Snessy, I have a feeling of that also!!!

Superwoman, You cannot change your culture alone?

You cannot change your tradition by posting it on QL!!!

Just love & respect it ; like what other expat

respect and love your Country QATAR!

Me? as a filipina; I do really love my country

and I am proud to be a Filipina!!!!

You know I will have an arranged marriage, I am not a Qatari and surely not a girl. I will just respect my culture and tradition. Will I be total stranger for my wife when I marry her, No. Just like your friend I will talk to her and meet her a few times and there will be atleast a year's gap from the time I first meet her to our marriage to get to know her as well as I can. Am I old fashioned, maybe yes but I surely think I won't be raping my wife.

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i feel so sorry for u !!!!

"Superwoman to the rescue"

I don't.

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the poster maybe just airing "isolated" cases prevalent (does it make sense, isolated but prevalent?) in this country if not in this region!

What should be emphasized is her insight that she don't want this kind of marriage (arranged) happening to her. Well, good for her that she is seeing this thing in the right perspective! Well, anyway, it works to some and maybe all end's in well! Hopefully!

"I'm back, simple as that"

I am aware for them there is NO MAHR for christians.

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Superwoman, if this is a true predicament you're in I would feel for you, but looking at your previous threads, I don't believe you. I get the impression you are initiating these threads to start up more hatred.

How have I come to this conclusion...
1. You are not an active Qler
2. You have only commented on 4 threads altogether
3. You have started 2 threads out of 3 badmouthing the Qatari way of life.
4. You come across as attention seeking

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superwoman, you are speaking for many qatari women. there are a lot of qatari women out there who are suffering from these culture and tradition. start from here (QL) and let their voices heard all over the world. let them know that we people are the one making culture and tradition and not the culture and tradition making people.
let them understand that it is very normal to commit mistakes, by obeying blindly, but as a wise and modern qatari, you can choose. everybody has the right to choose.
gird your loin, there are many narrow minded people out there who will say many bad things about you, have courage, for you voice will be heard. if not now, soon. the result will be glorifying to qataris and peace for everyone.

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So, marriage is now a shameful Qatari tradition?

So, girls should be [Mod Removed]s and [Mod Removed]es like you superwoman?

either

hmm its like married to stranger...

they can know each other after marriage..

I am not criticizing people in this situation, I have friends who have had successful and failed arranged marriages and do not wish it on anyone...unless they are happy to have one.

I am saying YOU are NOT Qatari and are making up this thread about your so-called friend to get attention.

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Arranged marriages happen in many societies and religion and believe it or not, there are people who prefer it. What if you cant find a life partner on your own but you want to get married and have a family life. In such situations its a good thing that your family (who consists of people who love you and want your well being) helps you find a suitable life partner. Marriages are made in heaven, arranged or love its still destiny. The person you are getting married to is a human right, not some animal or alien so why cant you talk to him/ her and sort your issues out before you get married or on your wedding night? If talking is an issue then write to him/her.

For every problem there is a solution.

There are problems in love marriage too. If a man has to deceive you after marriage in a arrange marriage situation then he can do the same in a love marriage situation too.

Pray, have faith in God and put a little bit of effort in your life.

Traditions are traditions and most of the time you have to respect them unless they clash with religion.

Your friend was given some time to get to know her husband, it's natural for her to feel some anxiety and fear, but don't call it "rape" that is beyond ridiculous.

I will have to agree with snessy you are only around to stir sh*t up, this site is full of closet haters and outspoken ones you are only adding fuel.

she is Pagan. Right now she is trapped in her web. She knows me well thats why she is not responding

Actually superwoman I can have a love marriage if I want but I am opting for an arranged one because I never trust my choices ;)

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so ur saying get married if its goood its good if its bad TALK IT OUT lol ur funny what bout if I get hurt trama drama the damage ..
its like building a house with two unknown substances and hope it wont fall !!!

my probem isnt the arranged marriage people its the tradition the force u not to know each other before marriage!!

since you cant talk about Mahr. I am giving you easy question

I dont mind an arranged marriage as long as I get to know the person u lucky u have the choice some girls dontttt and those r the ppl i try to stand up for "Superwoman to the rescue"

Superwoman, if you have issues, instead of whining on an online forum, why not get off your hindside & find a solution.

Start with what you said. You don't like arranged marriages. Fine, go talk to your parents, or whoever is your guardian.

Lot of people have had arranged marriages, and they are perfectly blissful. All parents want the best for their kids. if you are not happy with their decision, let THEM know. You don't have to come on a chat forum and complain to strangers about something that is a personal matter.

And why do you have to interpret it as "Shameful Qatari" tradition. Arranged marriages happen in a lot of other cultures too, especially in Asia. Even in the "West" there are arranged marriages, but its more to do with "business" side of things.... heiresses/heirs marrying into other rich families.

Whats wrong with arranged marriages anyway. It is the culture in most of the Asian communities.
Maybe you have got a complex

i dont get it:

a) they had 7 months to get to know each other.
b) she saw his pic and was excited, pls don't tell me that after 7 months, they are not dying to be intimate -- it isn't human nature! it just isn't.
c) if she wasn't ready, she could communicate to him, and if he respects her, he will wait.

consummation of marriage does not have to be on the first night. i know of so many who waited 1 or 2 weeks, before they could be comfortable in doing that.

what most of us do not agree with is when you DON'T want the guy, and you are forced to marry him.

Forced is different from arranged. Most ladies appreciate that someone is arranged for them, it saves them the headache of finding someone!

this engagement period is two or four or six month where the man can sit and speak to the lady which he will marry and they will know each other thoughts.
I have a question, why many people think that man will know the woman better only if he f**k her?
Those people who think like this reminds me of a joke, this joke says that the opened the brain of one of those people and they found only one wire and they people who opened the brain did not know the function of this wire so they decided to cut the wire and when the wire was cut the mans balls fall down.

so the moral of the story should be that she should kick him just becoze she knew him for 6 or 7 months???
what if hes a good person????
so ull kick him just becoze u dont know him???

actually in animals the parents do not perform arrange marriages.
and asian women are the best in the world they are civilised, traditional, god fearing, totally social and have ideal qualities for a good wife, good mother, good sister and so on.
yea there are restrictions but there should be some restrictions.
u say that asian women are in the worst position???
what do western women teach their children????
they split up before the children reach an adult age and are selfish and lack family values

they shouldn't marry untill they got one, two or three kids :-)

Thats fine to u???

A lot of lovemaking can unblock a stuffy nose! Dr. Choc

and she will pay for every men

dont know what is marriage contract. I am still waiting for you to come up with answers. Your Sheikh google cant help you with rules of marriage contract.

this is my subject and I m good at it.

i still don't get why 7 months of getting to know each other is not enough to be friends with the future husband, and get comfy with him.

i think if this is a true story, the couple would be soooo eager to be with each other by that time, lol.

7 month is the duration time they didnt get to know each other at all at these times but if u can read they had few time to see each other few as in 2 or 3 with their presence .

"Superwoman to the rescue"

Superwomen,
Just an advice:
You have good writing skills and very interesting issues to write about, why not write a book and get it published overseas under a pseudonym?
If you get it right, I am sure you will get the world's attention and you might contribute to the opening of your conservative society.

where Kazi comes recites and same day bride goes home.

Qatari marriage is totally different. Their contract is completed with few family members in Sharia court. Once the contract is done, they plan their wedding it takes 1-2 years. During this time bride completes her studies, together they design their home, their wedding costumes, wedding stages.

Superwoman is not ready to discuss marriage contract cos she doesnt Know how the rules are set

SW's personal comments and understanding on such marriages are extremely POOR and in bad taste....

There is absolutely no need to get intimate before marriage.....It requires sense of maturity, understanding of marital commitments and additional responsibilities the contract demands. Post marriage, she is 'NOT with a stranger on bed' but HER life partner.

Marriage is not a purchase deal/transaction but a social way of living together as Spouse within the Family and act as Shadows for eachother. Meher in Islam is considered A special gift of the husband to His wife
The amount of Meher is a Future security for women.

Compulsory Marital Gift for a Woman:
When she gets married, she is on the receiving end.
She receives a gift - she receives a dower or a marital gift, which is called as ‘Meher'
And it is mentioned in the Qur’an in Surah Nisa, Ch.4 Verse No.4 which says, ‘Give to the woman in dower, a marital gift. For a marriage to solemnize in Islam, ‘Meher is compulsory

/-a-t-/SW...I feel you live under high influence of local traditions without understanding the purpose/reasoning of basic islamic/marriage rules.

salary happily? he is rich to buy BMW,yatch, he cant afford to buy gift worth of 100,000

SUPERWOMAN comes from slums i think, where she is ok with one Valentine Rose and QR 100 RIYALS perfume

... actually... speaking, arranged MARRIAGES are another way of getting married ... and please don't think the traditional MEET, FALL IN LOVE, GET MARRIED is the best way to find the person of your dreams.

More than 50% of Western marriages which are based on this MEET-LOVE-MARRY concept break up even before a year together. And all the "ARRANGED" marriages are not SO bad like you say. I mean, the first night together, for two MATURE people need not be a night full of SEX. Its a first night of your entire life together. It should be a more of understanding each others feelings and feeling comfortable with each other.

Pros and Cons both ways.

aye aye, deepb. i said just that in my earlier post: forced is different from arranged.