Love and Sex
Last night I got a call from a very good friend of mine in New York. I was best man at his wedding eleven years ago. He told me that he and his wife were splitting up because she had had a one night stand.
I asked him how he knew. He said that she had told him and broken down in tears and asked for his forgiveness. I then asked him if he still loved her. He said that he did but she had broken his trust and that the marriage had to end. He asked me what I would do if it was me.
I thought about it for a while and concluded that she had not broken his trust because she had told him. She was honest and remorseful. I told him that I would be upset if it was me this had happened to. That my pride would be hurt and that I would be jealous but that I would forget about it and that I certainly would not end the relationship. After all, it is only sex. I said I would try and make the physical side of the relationship better and more frequent and that I wouldn't give it another thought. I wonder if this is true. I think it is.
After all, I have never had a virginal wife or a virginal girlfriend. What do I care if she has had another lover? The relationship is more important than a casual fling brought about by loneliness and his constant business travel. I think if I truly loved someone I could get over an infidelity and move on.
He said he would think about what I said and delay the split until he was sure what he wanted to do.
What would you guys do?