TOP 10 REASONS WHY WOMEN CHEAT

before i posted reasons why man cheats...now its woman's turn ---

10. The relationship isn't THAT serious.

9. They are bored in the relationship. When women get bored with their man they may seek comfort in the arms of a stranger or an old familiar flame. They get bored when the sparks no longer fly, they are stuck in a routine at home or in the relationship, and if their man isn't paying attention to them or they aren't having anymore fun together.

8. They aren't getting what they want out of the relationship. Most women want a place to call home, especially a house, they want a marriage or some type of commitment, and eventually, they want to start a family. If they have been in a long term relationship and nothing seems to be materializing from it, they will consider straying if they haven't already. Women need to know their place in your life, we want to know that you are in it to give them that happily ever after, and if you don't step it up, then you need to proceed with caution. No matter what we say, we need the ring, the piece of paper, the contract, the whole sha-bang!

7. When he has too much baggage. Psycho ex girlfriends, baby mama drama, ex-wives with too much control, a meddling mother, over-protective siblings, bratty kids and friends that don't know when to go home, will take their toll on a woman. There is nothing more unattractive then a man that has too much baggage. A man can spoil her rotten, treat her with love and respect, but if his mama always has something to say, if his parents drop by unannounced, or are rude when her man isn't around, she will begin to resent the number one woman in your life, her arch-enemy... Yo' MAMA! When your friends come over too much or stay too long, you're not doing couples activities and you're all just sitting around playing video games, that will make you all look like a high school boy instead of the man she knows you can be. If you seem to be fighting about other people in your lives, that is definitely a red flag that she is not happy, so schedule time with your friends or family and let her go do whatever she likes to do then meet up latter.

6. They won't leave something for nothing. When you're just not getting along and you seem to be fighting a lot, fellas beware! Most women won't have a clean break because we need to "get under someone new, to get over someone old." That's right, this is something even our mothers and grandmothers know now days! That is why we always tend to have a "rebound guy," you know, the guy after the serious long-term relationship, before the string of one night stands and mini-relationships that will eventually lead to the new and improved relationship with someone better then you. We think about our feelings and emotions a lot before we stray or start looking for the rebound guy, by the time we act on it, we have made up our minds and moved on. All you need to know is that the plan was well thought out before it was executed.

5. Ok, sometimes it is about the SEX. If a girl is having trouble climaxing, no matter how great of a guy you are, or if you have a mortgage, lease or kids together, she just might stray, depending on how bad it is and how much she really loves you. You could be rich, offer her everything under the sun, but if you can't deliver the kind of lovin' she needs, you're headed for trouble, because there is an easy remedy to cure that little problem. You will find that more and more women will have a Cha-cha, a guy they can call on whenever, wherever, to take care of their sexual appetite. Unlike a booty call, a Cha-cha knows you're in a relationship, he might be in one too, but he is readily awaiting her number appearing on the Caller ID of his cell phone. He is the guy that will give her presents AND orgasms, but he never calls her, she calls him. Women have sexual and emotional needs that require your attention and if you aren't giving it to them, someone else will without a doubt!

4. When things start to go sour. Let's face it, women need a lot of attention, we have feelings and emotions that run deeper then any of the seven seas in the whole wide world. If you forget her birthday, an anniversary, or any other special day or if you skimp out on the other important days like Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Christmas, New Years Eve or WHATEVER, she will feel unappreciated and that is a major red-light danger zone! The rule of thumb here is that you need to show your appreciation to her, show her how special she is and how much she means to you. Say thank you in little ways, because every woman will tell you, "it's the little things that count." The reason the little things count is because they all add up to one big thing, whether or not you appreciate her enough. We will never say it out loud, but we're expecting you to do it for us too.

3. If the relationship gets physical, in a bad way. Don't think that you could ever completely control a woman. If you try to use scare tactics, if you hit her, beat her up, or threaten her, she can and will stray at some point, it is just a matter of when. If you are verbally or emotionally abusive, we may play the victim card but every woman can be pushed to her breaking point until enough is enough.

2. When she doesn't come first in your life. If you put other people before her then she will eventually stray and find herself in bed with a guy that will put her first. A woman has to feel like she is your number one priority outside of your real responsibilities like work or school, since women can be considered your partner, she needs to be treated as such, and more. When you're spending more time or money on your Mom, or anyone else other then her, you will have some problems.I know it sounds selfish, but that is just the way we are. Women just want a guy to make her feel like a princess, so if you've got other things on that peddle stool, you better make room for her because if she isn't your number one, she will belong to someone else in no time. It's not just about people either, it is also habits and addicitions, like drugs or video games, if you spend more time on the Playstation III or getting high, she will find a more mature man that will place that crown on her head and slip on that glass slipper.

1. Whatever you can do, we can do it better. If you have cheated on us and we take you back, you better be on your toes every minute of every day! Don't think you are in the clear just because she forgave you, you better watch how she interacts with your brother, your cousins, your best friends, co- workers, and anyone with a penis.

You see, it is so much easier for a woman to cheat, all we have to do is say "yes". Men love the thrill of the chase, they are natural predators, and once they have a piece of the pie, they are done with it because the thrill of the chase is over. If they get caught it's because they weren't doing it right, they got sloppy, and weren't paying attention. Women on the other hand, are very detail oriented, if she gets caught, she probably wanted to. If the girl you cheated on knew about your woman, she was in it for the competition, you really mean nothing to her; sorry guys. Women always think they are better then other women, even sisters are rivals, but you are the fool that gets caught in the middle. If you don't end up with one of the two, you will end up alone, because a woman doesn't really want the guy that cheats on his chick with her because he will probably do it to her too. The woman who got cheated on will either take you back and get you back to even the score, or she will not have anything to do with you. It's all a game, and most of the time... it's the men that play the fools.

I know this all sounds horrible, and you probably think that women aren't like that, but if you really believe that then you are naive. Women are not nice when you hurt them or don't treat them the way they deserve to be treated. They will strike when you least expect it, she will hurt you in away you never thought possible, and if she did it all because of some thing you did or failed to do, she will do it without a single regret. It could be days, weeks, months, years, but she knows she is in control and she will take her time to get you back. Let's go back to the beginning, remember how Eve convinced Adam to eat that apple? Well, that's the kind of power we have over men. Don't think for a moment, that you are special, men are disposable, sad but true. Anything you won't do for us, someone else will be more then willing to step up and take care of us, and that's the guy that gets the trophy wife. The self-absorbed, naive man, is still a boy to us, and what we really want, is a MAN. A woman will love you whole heartedly if you play your cards right, but if you don't, she will call your bluff and walk away with the pot, take your pride with her, and leave you all alone to figure out how the heck she pulled it off.

by vega love

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will try to finish a lil fast
Aiyayai! 10. The relationship isn't THAT serious. - Won't cheat and go sneaking around. Just leave. 9. They are bored in the relationship. - Nope. Can always find something to keep duly entertained. Hey.. everybody gets bored when routine sets in. It's a matter of communicating and being innovative, without cheating. 8. They aren't getting what they want out of the relationship. - Refer to No. 10 - dumping time. 7. When he has too much baggage. - Good one. And also refer to No. 10. 6. They won't leave something for nothing. - Not true. Someone who doesn't leave someone unless there's another waiting in the wings is just biding her time and using the one she's with at the moment. That's more like a crutch, so she's incomplete without someone. Very dangerous - for the current guy and also the rebound guy. "Women are not nice when you hurt them or don't treat them the way they deserve to be treated. They will strike when you least expect it, she will hurt you in away you never thought possible, and if she did it all because of some thing you did or failed to do, she will do it without a single regret. It could be days, weeks, months, years, but she knows she is in control and she will take her time to get you back. ... Anything you won't do for us, someone else will be more then willing to step up and take care of us... A woman will love you whole heartedly if you play your cards right, but if you don't, she will call your bluff and walk away with the pot, take your pride with her, and leave you all alone to figure out how the heck she pulled it off. " - Not bad. ***************************************** Don't want no drama, No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama
try to post what link you got this from or the website, perhaps?
Ya right, Azi. Was on the edge of my mind to ask just now who or which site credit was to be given, otherwise it's plagiarism. ***************************************** Don't want no drama, No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama
that's why i put at the end the authors name (by vega love) - - - so, no plagiarism!
:) just want to share what i've read - -
having a bigger dangly thing or Bigger Wallet ?
C...08 - Sure, "vega love" but where was it posted? Anyway, thanks for sharing. Something different from the usual soppy nonsense and closer to the truth. britexpat - new guy with bigger wallet's good - so that one can be free from the rat race and start baking cakes without blowing up the kitchen. ***************************************** Don't want no drama, No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama
JUST THE FUN OF DOING IT!!!!
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
Who cares where it was origionally? this is great!!
eaglemmanuel :) i just read it tru yahoo --- dont worry i will try to search again where i find it... any wayz, guys dont be afraid ---NOT ALL WOMAN cheats :) if you're a good guy, ur woman has no reason to cheat...
Number 10 Not enough sex Remember the good old days when you could stay up forever fooling around? Then responsibility entered the mix -- and kids -- and before you knew it, sleep was more important than sex. Well, women want to feel wanted. If you’re not making her feel that way, she could seek it elsewhere. To keep that spark alive, ask her out on date nights, send her provocative e-mails at lunch, and by all means, don’t let life get in the way of kissing, cuddling and sex. Number 9 Being the bad girl Just as men feel the urge to sow their wild oats, some women have an inner sex kitten just waiting to be unleashed -- and when the beast escapes from the cage, look out. This frisky behavior usually rears its ugly head in response to some sort of life change -- major weight loss, new job, new friends, mid-life crisis, etc. Keep the lines of communication open and she’ll be more likely to talk to you about what’s going on instead of spilling her guts to a stranger in the night. Number 8 Self-esteem Sex can be an instant pick-me-up; a self-esteem booster that makes women feel sexier, more beautiful and more loved. If your wife or girlfriend has self-esteem issues, it doesn’t mean she’s automatically going to cheat -- and it’s certainly not your fault if she does -- but there are ways to make her feel secure in the relationship that could help her from straying. Pay attention to her, ask her questions and don’t hold back on compliments -- a little flattery goes a long way with women. Number 7 Revenge/payback for past wrongs No, you didn’t cheat, but whether you blew your retirement fund in Vegas or got caught in a big lie, you did break her trust (and, possibly, her heart). She feels wounded and betrayed -- and wants to hurt you the same way you hurt her. To regain her trust, it’s not enough just to tell her you’re sorry; you have to show her. Actions speak louder than words. Number 6 Lack of intimacy You have it all: the house, the two-car garage and the two-and-a-half bathrooms -- at least on the outside. But inside, the relationship is lacking the one thing women want most: intimacy. It’s not just sex that makes women feel connected in a relationship; it’s touching, kissing, cuddling, and communicating. Women crave it, and she could seek it elsewhere if she’s not getting it at home. To improve intimacy, spend quality time together, give her a foot massage, make a romantic dinner for two -- anything that will give her a sense of unity and closeness. Number 5 Feeling neglected/ignored/underappreciated Women wear many hats in a relationship -- housekeeper, errand-runner, grocery shopper, babysitter, etc. When she feels more like a maid than a girlfriend/wife, that’s when she could stray. The fact that you spend all your time at work or on the golf course gives her double reason to seek attention elsewhere. No, you can’t quit your job, but you can thank her for all her selfless deeds -- and do your share around the house. Number 4 Your emotional withdrawal Women are emotional beings. Not only do they need physical support, but they also need emotional support. Once you retreat from the relationship, she sees it as a sign that things are through -- a breakup is inevitable. So, she’s not really cheating, she’s moving on. To avoid this, be present in the relationship. Yes, that means sharing your icky feelings, but it’s better than the alternative, right? Number 3 Bedroom boredom Sex can become monotonous if you let it -- the same position; the same setting; the same person. An affair adds adventure and gets her adrenalin flowing. To avoid routine, avoid repetition. Sweep her away for the weekend, make out at the movies, kiss her for no reason at all... The unexpected adds excitement. Number 2 Exit strategy Instead of breaking up with you, she cheats on you. That way she doesn’t have to deal with the broken relationship, which is much harder to fix. An affair is the easy way out -- or at least that’s how she sees it. That’s another reason communication is key. Let her know that she can talk to you about anything and that you love her enough to work through any bumps in the relationship road. Number 1 Revenge for your cheating Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Because you cheated, she wants to get back at you and give you a dose of your own medicine. Cheating is her vengeance, her chance to even the playing field. No, you can’t undo your indiscretion, but you can ask for her forgiveness, assure her it will never happen again and suggest couples therapy to help you get through this tough time. ===================================== http://www.qatarliving.com/node/58409
It's a good read...thanks Number 1 is correct...in my case: I don't get even, I get better....
Number 8 Self-esteem...."" i also have low self-esteem,, can i find somebody to have s+x with me? """ Number 3 Bedroom boredom...."""make out at the movies"""", well this is really something.. anybody tried this?
C08 - no need to waste time looking and digging that up ;) I was just following up on Azi's valid point. KH - not bad, not bad at all...looks about right... ***************************************** Don't want no drama, No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama
Friends can cheat you. What are the chances that the love of your life, let alone a woman, cannot cheat you, specially when you're a good guy? Or maybe the question is: How do women define their own description of a good guy? Women love to talk about such descriptions, but they never fall for the right description they wanted. Maybe women, in this case, is all just talk. Maybe women really wanted the 'goods' of a guy, but not the good guy itself, specially in this modern materialistic world... "Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
I will rather stay single than to be cheated by a lady. They dont have the rights to hurt me.
See who gets to hurt more after a woman does that... "Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
even how good their wife/partner/GF is...they still will cheat. My EX answered me that when I asked him why he did it...coz he's a MAN, he said...GGRRRR
Heero_yuy2 said 'if you're a good guy,ur woman has no reason to cheat' ... - True. "Or maybe the question is: How do women define their own description of a good guy? Women love to talk about such descriptions, but they never fall for the right description they wanted." - True to large extent - because women are generally ruled by their emotions and we all know how illogical those can be and unstable. The women who are not ruled by their emotions tend to be misinterpreted as "not interested" or "not interested in men" lol! ie lesbos. Some really are either of the aforementioned 2, but others are actually "not interested until we see the qualities look for in a man". NB: These qualities vary - some look for character, IQ, EQ, looks OR quite a number (perhaps many but definitely not all) look for a fat wallet to be put in a lifestyle she would like to be accustomed to. That is the unpleasant truth, no recriminations about being a traitor to other women, but it is the truth. For the ones who look for a cash cow, I will say that financial wealth is fleeting. You may have it for a few or many years but you can lose it. IQ and character will remain, EQ once learned will also remain and these are the things that are important, even if you lose your financial wealth. Some people I know have been so used to having money that now when their husbands lost their jobs or had to take massive pay cuts, they have to tighten their belts, they are so depressed, etc. and can't handle things and basically fall apart. This, in turn causes other problems - pressures on the already stressed out husbands, etc. into a downward spiral. "Maybe women, in this case, is all just talk. Maybe women really wanted the 'goods' of a guy, but not the good guy itself, specially in this modern materialistic world... " - Some are all just talk but it appears that's not the case for the women respondents to this thread. The general description is what we're talking about and each individual has to work out the specifics. By the way, just because a person and his friends think he's a good guy, doesn't necessarily mean he is what a particular individual is looking for. ***************************************** Don't want no drama, No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama
7, 2, and 1 are true i can relate, oopps i havent cheat with my husband yet, YET?!!! never!
sag sag
You get a family, home and place in his life but later you find that nineth paragraph is just missing from the relationship, you should cheat! Good! After all what you find after getting family,home, etc is just that...
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