"Best Friends or Lovers"

By gtim

To some extent it happens to both male & female. If they are singles, no hassles… But what IF… a guy is married and the girl is unmarried, or vice versa? Do you think its acceptable? “Maybe they will reason out; “ were only best of friends…nothing more”.
But then, they’re always together, going out and coming in the office, eating together, going to malls, etc… Is it really friendship or anything else?.... If you happened to be a wife/husband of that individual with “friendship” to another, it is acceptable to you or not?
Guys, you are free to give your comment….

By medan• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
medan

I am wife and got a good career and conservative too, It is very very difficult (I guess will never can) to approve my husband friendship with his female colleague. I think most wife will agree with me.

Those girls out there who having "frienship/whatever they call it" please respect other women marriages, otherwise, it will be boomerang to those girls once they got married.

To Gtim : tell your friend if she feels something not right, then her feelings is right. She should talk to her husband calmly. Hope they can set the limit to have a long lasting marriage.

By anonymous• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
anonymous

helo gtim...

i think now its problem in ur side and ur vision on this case making it more complicated. bcoz u seems to be looking dat much deep to gents weaknesses...

Sure der will be som desire and passions towards other ladies for the married guys!

One who control his feelings and keep his family life safe is perfect.

And always make sure dat the wife is caring and loving him much as he wish frm her or more dan daat.

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A good wife can guide a man to success...

A bad wife is enough to spoil minimum a community...!!

sorry if my lines hurt you

By jostly18• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
jostly18

I’m a simple housewife and just open this topic. It’s quite interesting as it reflects reality. I just stayed at home and I don’t really know what happens in my husband’s office. I accept the fact the men are polygamous but then they can also loyal to their wife if temptation is out. For me, it’s a big no to have friendship with opposite sex if married. As I said temptation is there…

As for Gtim’s advise to her friend Mheljes is correct we should not be biased, we don’t know the rest of the story itself.

Actually, it’s a good topic if Glorya don’t start bashing Gtim.

By anonymous• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
anonymous

well.. for me... a married man or woman should not make a very close friendship with opposite sex... khalas... coz there could be something that could spark..yah know! ;)

as for gtim's advice to her friend... well, she just gave advise... its not her fault if her friend decided to follow her advise. it was her friends choice unless gtim force her friend to follow her advise, and that would be a different story then.

we have our own choices, we seek advice from different friends/people, but the decision is still ours, and whatever consequence it would give, we should not blame it to others.

i guess it was not only gtim's advise that made her friend do those investigation churva...

bashing gtim's advise to her friend is kinda one-sided and only narrow-minded people can think of...

i mean c'mon... in this generation... only naive and fools will believe that aint no somethin' goin on between a married man getting close to a woman friend...

just my toe cents...lol

By ggjoseph• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
ggjoseph

oh cmon......more..QL wants more....i just got me popcorn...dont give in without the fights :p :D

Glorya & gtim are both alpha-women, if they team up, only things left after a nuclear washout would be the cockroaches and them XD

By Phoenix_Rising• 12 years 2 months ago.
Phoenix_Rising

hmmmmm ... lukaret :P

so who's the wife and who's the mistress?

By shobaker• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
shobaker

Give the benefit of the doubt for the hubby and the best friend...

Cannot jump into a negative conclusion directly...

They have some explaining to do... LOL

Break it, Ruin it, Destroy it.

Move it, Fix it.

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 2/5
Glorya

Now you find me funny... hahaha...THANK YOU! THANK YOU!!

-- really i find you funny

I hope you understand you the words you quoted

--- or shoud it be i hope you understand the words you quoted..lols.... i thought you have a good grammar gtim... since you are telling me that i only have 30% words. LMAO .. you are really sicked...

Two most important thoughts a person should bear in mind.1: use thing, not people

2. love people, not things

By gtim• 12 years 2 months ago.
gtim

Now you find me funny... hahaha...THANK YOU! THANK YOU!!

I hope you understand you the words you quoted...

By lukaret• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
lukaret

fight between Gloria and gtim are more interesting... it looks like fight between the wife and the mistress... lolzzz

chill guyssss

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Glorya

ROFL see you are really funny

Two most important thoughts a person should bear in mind.1: use thing, not people

2. love people, not things

By gtim• 12 years 2 months ago.
gtim

So you want to be proclaim the winner?.. AND THE WINNER IS..."GLORIA MACAPAGAL" ESTE "GLORYA THE WARFREAK"...CLAP! CLAP! CLAP!

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
Glorya

gtim said: To summarize it all, your defending your friend that has a “married guy best friend”.

----- so whose hallucinating here.. maybe your taken so much medicine....i never mention i have a friend ....you are really duh...

"" naghahanap ako ng tutor para sa english lesson ko""

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 2/5
Glorya

gtim said:30 english words stored your mind, 15% of it are nasty

do i need to say thank you at least i have 15% saying nasty words?how many percent do u think you have for saying nasty words? 100%???101??

if you cannot accept my point of view then you are the losser..

monkey girl...

"" naghahanap ako ng tutor para sa english lesson ko""

By ggjoseph• 12 years 2 months ago.
ggjoseph

gtim Vs. Glorya...

CAT FIGHT!!!

Reality T.V. 101 !!!

Nevermind the couple in despair - Your arguments are more interesting!!!

XD

By flor1212• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
flor1212

that transpired between her and her friend that everybody is condemning her regarding her advice to her friend?

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wala lang

By anonymous• 12 years 2 months ago.
anonymous

Boys will be boys indeed...

For the lady in this subject it may be just pure friendship and nothing else.

then for the guy....well for sure its not. hehehe

just talk straight to the husband and tell him how you fell, how jealous you are with this girl...

practice makes perfect, but nobody's perfect... so why practice? duh?! ☺

By azilana7037• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 3/5
azilana7037

or you two could continue your lively exchanges on this link:

http://www.qatarliving.com/node/986494

or not :/

By gtim• 12 years 2 months ago.
gtim

Good Morning Qlers!!! I will officially close this topic now. Thank you for your comments… either contructive or destructive all were accepted!!!

By gtim• 12 years 2 months ago.
gtim

Ohh.. poor Glorya, you suffered an amnesia now? your forgot those nasty words and pics that you posted? It was then deleted,,, the friendly moderator didn't like it.. then again, who is that "monkey girl" that you mention? Is it you? hahaha....

War Freak Girl! make your own thread and do your won bashing there not here. Ah.. oh, by the way, i think you can't make it because you only have 30 english words stored your mind, 15% of it are nasty words that's why you ask someone to post it for you... Poor little girl...

By qatarmedic• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 3/5
qatarmedic

you cannot do anything.... if he likes to cheat a lot of way to do it.

.... the wifey should show the hubby what are her asset compare to the mistress...

funny but, the hubby probably shoosing a better girl... hihihi/....

good luck to the wifey

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
Glorya

and by the way, I reviewed your postings. To summarize it all, your defending your friend that has a “married guy best friend”. So, why your agitated? Everyone in this forum is free for his opinion. i don’t contradicted you. As I said it’s your opinion… then you posted some nasty words and pictures… well, I think something is “fishy...”

…. Opps!!! Feeding malicious thoughts… careful…

------ gtim,,, are you really reviewing my post????. from where did you get that i have a friend that has a guys best friend... you are really funny .. did i ever mention a friend here.. . and i comment base on what i believe in... and i stand for it... why do you smell somthing fishy... because maybe you are eating too much fish... lols..it really shows that you are really good at creating a story monkey girl...

what is nasty on the pictures can you explained it... everyone is posting here anypic signature on the bottom,.,why you are taking the pictures seriously..rofl...

whytenight.... i dont know this gtim personnly.. i dont even meet her.... im not interested to.. iam just commenting base on my own point of view....evryone has a right to give comments right?what is the personal attack here....

"" feeling felingan""

By anonymous• 12 years 2 months ago.
anonymous

Glorya do you know gtim personally?

Why are you indulging in personal attacks??

Have a problem, sort it outside QL.

By gtim• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
gtim

…and by the way, I reviewed your postings. To summarize it all, your defending your friend that has a “married guy best friend”. So, why your agitated? Everyone in this forum is free for his opinion. i don’t contradicted you. As I said it’s your opinion… then you posted some nasty words and pictures… well, I think something is “fishy...”

…. Opps!!! Feeding malicious thoughts… careful…

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 2/5
Glorya

youre calling me little girl? weel thats fine expired lady,,,, you are happy yah it shows that you are happy ruining your friends family life...what i dont understand that you are still on denial in spite the fact that you mention that your friends follow your advise to her...

"" feeling felingan""

By gtim• 12 years 2 months ago.
gtim

Sorry to disappoint your ideas… little girl. I can still sleep well, I was happy that I was able to help my friend. You don’t know the rest of the story, don’t jump into conclusion.

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
Glorya

Like I said earlier...whatever happens now to your friend and her husband...will be your fault. Just pray they won't get separated, coz if they do...you'll have that in your conscience.

-- i agree with you azi....i was wondering now how gtim can sleep now ...

"" feeling felingan""

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
Glorya

that’s only the part of our conversation the rest you don’t know, so don’t tell me that I’m feeding her false ideas..

---- really owsss... she did what i told her.thats your statement..... cmon.....

"" feeling felingan""

By anonymous• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
anonymous

gtim if I was married, I will not accept that my wife is always together with another guy. They are having an affair my friend.

By gtim• 12 years 2 months ago.
gtim

...and i'm married.

By gtim• 12 years 2 months ago.
gtim

… that’s only the part of our conversation the rest you don’t know, so don’t tell me that I’m feeding her false ideas..

By azilana7037• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
azilana7037

not siding with anyone here..

To be honest, I've been in relationships and I know (somewhat) what your friend is going through.

Ok...I gave my 2 cents about the topic...

Good Luck gtim..to you and your friend

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 3/5
Glorya

"" feeling felingan""

By azilana7037• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
azilana7037

and I quote you: "...the wife is here and she's my friend. she confided to me and asked some advise. she did what i told her. she make some secret investigations and talked to her husband what she knew. but naturally, boys will be boys...all he can say was "honey... were just friends and then turned back from her." i felt sorry for her. She is so worried that it might affect their marriage life..

i was thinking about this other girl? all the while she know that the guy is married, why then she kept on clinging with him... so disgusting...

---> Your friend did what you told her...what did you tell her exactly? Investigate, check his phone?

--->"Boys will be boys"...you're generalizing and made a conclusion about men (or boys) and your friend's husband.

As a friend, you should have consoled her, told her to be strong and trust her husband more....not give her ideas. Besides, you're SINGLE...how would you know and what don you know about married life? They're married...you're not.

Like I said earlier...whatever happens now to your friend and her husband...will be your fault. Just pray they won't get separated, coz if they do...you'll have that in your conscience.

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 2/5
Glorya

Gtim well how can you explained this line

Gtim said: she confided to me and asked some advise. she did what i told her. she make some secret investigations and talked to her husband what she knew.

o cmon gtim,.instead of uplifting your frind. if you are really a well mannered/refined person you will not advice like that.... you feed her mind to investigate and thats all.,... youre denying

"" feeling felingan""

By gtim• 12 years 2 months ago.
gtim

Azi, I don’t gave her this idea. She's the one who told me that a girl in the office is flirting her husband. I told her maybe she’s getting paranoid… and she said that this girl texted her husband… she happened to read it when the husband is in the bathroom. It says: “gud am… May sandwich akong dala. Share tayo.” She don’t usually check her husband phone, only lately when she sense some changes on his activities. She knows what she feels, which is normal for a wife.

By pogi2ehh• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 2/5
pogi2ehh

i agree.... eaglemmanuel

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++++++++++Prevention is better than cure+++++++++

By Eagley• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
Eagley

Very well said, QS.

"...It’s not about having facts, it is about your sense of the issue.. You as a wife definitely have sense of what exactly is going on… if there is something fishy or not.. If you do feel that there is something, trust me, THERE IS!..If it is only friendship, she would respond properly, demonstrating you that there is nothing between her and you hub.."

A further note, this comes from the wife having no self esteem issues of her own. She can then observe the situation (face to face) and assess it for what it really is - whether just best friends or more than that. People can lie but their actions will speak louder than words - eventually. Notice inconsistencies, etc.

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Troubleshooter = shoots trouble in the a***

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 3/5
Glorya

sometimes it difficult to give advices to a friend you need to listen to other story, it best just to listen to a friend who confides you about her problems and let her feel that you are there to listen. but saying things that will feed her mind to let her decide the worst. esp. in this case maybe gtims friend family life would at stake lukaret is right "Instead of adding more fire why dont you pour some water to kill that fire.. "

""churah mo feeling felingan""

By pogi2ehh• 12 years 2 months ago.
pogi2ehh

Trust your man

but always remind him that you love him so much

say "i love u hon" hehehehhehe

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

++++++++++Prevention is better than cure+++++++++

By FlyingAce• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
FlyingAce

Just Talk It Out. It Would Be The Best Solution.....

Aviate, Navigate, Communicate

By mjamille28• 12 years 2 months ago.
mjamille28

nail on the head, Azi!

By azilana7037• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 2/5
azilana7037

An officemate came to me one morning teary-eyed and asked for help.

The night before, she accidentally opened her husband's mobile phone(they both have the same Nokia model N90) and saw/read text messages from our other female officemate. when she checked the call history, there were exchanges of calls from 2-3 weeks back.

She suspected that our officemate is having an affair with her husband. And she's devastated at the idea coz the girl in question was so close to her like a sister.

I told her this: Talk to her husband, tell him what she found and how bad/hurt/betrayed she felt and give her husband the chance to deny/admit it. If he (my friend) believe him, well and good but if she's not convinced, give the husband an choice: continue his friendship and lose his family OR try and save the marriage.

In my opinion: avoid getting involved with MARITAL ISSUES, especially if you're not MARRIED.

By anonymous• 12 years 2 months ago.
anonymous

Sandman69 said gtim, Tell the wife to get ...

gtim, Tell the wife to get a man to be "Just Friends" with and make sure he finds out about it. Don't accept this double standard. Rub his nose in his own poop

Source:

- A study Conducted by FriedUnicorn - Vol I (September,1999)

"Resident Attention Seeker"

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
Glorya

azi you are right. she advise her friend wrongly it gtim fault shes feeding her friens mind to investigate and to lost trust to her husband..

""churah mo feeling felingan""

By azilana7037• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
azilana7037

One QLer posted that it it likely for people who works in a company/office 8(or more) hours a day, 5 or 6 hours a day develop a sort of bonding with each other; like brothers and sisters...

BUt look at this way:

(1) The husband can have close friends (opposite gender) as long as he does not neglect his wife;

(2) The girl in question (the female officemate) should know her limitations.

the problem is, people around makes/creates the problem when there's none.

GTIM, some of the posters here are right...you DID insinuated to your friend that her HUSBAND MIGHT BE cheating ON HER. You created the clouds of doubt in her mind. Accept it or not, whatever happens next to your friend and her husband will be YOUR FAULT.

Don't get upset with me...it's my view of the matter...sorry

By gtim• 12 years 2 months ago.
gtim

that's you Glorya.. your telling who you are.. hahaha

By gtim• 12 years 2 months ago.
gtim

Glorya??? are seeking for attention? Got It!!!!

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 3/5
Glorya

""churah feeling felingan""

By ggjoseph• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
ggjoseph

Honesty Breeds Loyalty

He's f****in around and she's being foolish. If it bothers her tell her to tell her husband that she dont like it and wants him to stop? Simple.

If she cant communicate - She's already failed.

Any "Friendship" that involves frequent hang outs ultimately gets bond by love. Its only but natural. I know , I did it. :D

By Oryx• 12 years 2 months ago.
Oryx

I prefer to post with a conservative lady like Gtim although I don't agree with her because she is a LADY.

You my dear with your swearing and rudeness just come over as a dumbo because you resort to those tactics instead of a well worded point of view

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Rating: 3/5
Glorya

manner? what ROFL

""churah mo feeling felingan""

By Oryx• 12 years 2 months ago.
Oryx

you think 'boys will be boys' you say that is a fact?

There there is no hope then from your point of view and you take away making them responsible.

I don't agree you - I think humans should be held responsible for their actions.

By gtim• 12 years 2 months ago.
gtim

Glorya, Glorya Labandera... It really shows... watch your manner...

By Small B• 12 years 2 months ago.
Small B

why dont some of u learn to chill....

i thouhgt we make new friends and have a nice time here.....

cheers.....

By Glorya• 12 years 2 months ago.
Glorya

ms conservative lady.. so who do u think you are then...

go to your province ok... and plant sweet potato there...

""churah mo feeling felingan""

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

OK so , you what you want i will stoop down in your level? LOSSER!!!

By pogi2ehh• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 2/5
pogi2ehh

Husbands always forget limitations but it depends to him ....

it can't deny that there is a sparks from it turns to firesssssss

++++++++++Prevention is better than cure+++++++++

By Glorya• 12 years 3 months ago.
Glorya

so you think you are educated.. o cmon,.. if i am nonsense here why you keep on replying on my post... "cool baby.. "playing sweet.huh....

is that foul words???STFU -

""churah mo feeling felingan""

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

Glorya... your really nonesense and immature and i can sense it in your posting. Cool baby!! Why you're upset? Your taking it personnally... Foul words are not accepted here. Be educated.. if you are???

By lukaret• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
lukaret

something else if you dont know your limitations...on my part i just wanted to imply that having married bestfreind will not always turns into affair.. There still cases like mine, we stick of being bestfreind just only upto bestfreindsss

By mjamille28• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
mjamille28

one should always think lots of times first before giving advices to a friend,..as always, communication is the key, between the husband and the wife, that is...

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

That's the fact Oryx, but if they can prevent doing it why not?

By Glorya• 12 years 3 months ago.
Glorya

gtim now i understand why you are conservative type of person because you are too old. profile expired lols

""churah mo feeling felingan""

By pogi2ehh• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 3/5
pogi2ehh

The solution is satisfy your man and always trust him ... anyway if there is something fishy you can notice it all....

lukaret there is a dangerous way of living if you letting him be soooooo close to your hubby for me if im the wife i will not be comfortable... i will talk to him and confort him...

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

you said it so glorya... tell that to yourself..

By Glorya• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 2/5
Glorya

and for you information gtim.. here in QL you cannot use different username (playing trolls) for they will checked your IP address...

""churah mo feeling felingan""

By Oryx• 12 years 3 months ago.
Oryx

'but naturally boys will be boys' with that mindset then in fact you are giving the male tacit permission to behave in away that won't make responsible for his own actions. Your are blaming it on inherent genetic gender traits.

You can't debate whether its acceptable or not if you already believe that is the status quo.

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

Conservative lady???? who me? oh yes, yes!!! and so what?... your out now, nonesense!!!

By Glorya• 12 years 3 months ago.
Glorya

me.. using another name... can you proved that... can you check when i joined... then you are confused, dont you?

""churah mo feeling felingan""

By Glorya• 12 years 3 months ago.
Glorya

Glorya, your using another name. Look! now your getting confused... hahaha

maybe you are the who is confused.. hahahhaa..conservative lady...lols..

churah mo feeling felingan

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

Greentea said: "office mates can definitely be friends... but hey, who says they cant be lovers too??? i know one... LOL"

another point to you Greentea...

By greentea• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 2/5
greentea

office mates can definitely be friends... but hey, who says they cant be lovers too??? i know one... LOL

my unsolicited advice to the wifey is: take care of your husband, if you feel their closeness is just too much, take a move... they definitely know how to play the game... who wants to be caught anyway?

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

Glorya, your using another name. Look! now your getting confused... hahaha...

By Glorya• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
Glorya

Even you are both married or one of you, its not a reason to stop yourself making freinds with others. I agree with Gloria marriage doesnt mean loosing self identity. Go out and meet others even in your opposite sex there's no problem with that.. If your talking about conservatism, then i probably guess that you dont have male freind coz you're conservative and you will ONLY allow ladies in your circle of freinds.

- you are absolutely right lukaret.

* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust

* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends

* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness

* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment

* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective

By lukaret• 12 years 3 months ago.
lukaret

topic coz i have experience it.. I have a married man bestfreind.. Just really bestfreind nothing more.. that's y im telling you people try to interpret this closeness with something else like "affair" bcoz this people has a malicious mind.. Handling simple things to complicated..

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
gtim

Lukaret said; "With regards to officemate of her husband, in my own experience I believe that they were just freinds.. They just become too close coz its like 8hrs in 6 days they were together so naturally they are sooo close as bestfreinds"

That's your opinion ms lukaret...

By lukaret• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
lukaret

or wrong advice makes there married life turns into failure.. Instead of adding more fire why dont you pour some water to kill that fire.. In short, advice your freind not to become paranoid hence tell her to show more love, care, respect and trust to her husband, in that case husband will not look for others.. With regards to officemate of her husband, in my own experience I believe that they were just freinds.. They just become too close coz its like 8hrs in 6 days they were together so naturally they are sooo close as bestfreinds.

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

i supposed your single Ms. lukaret, coz you don;t know the feeling of a wife being deprvied of devotion that is supposed to be intended for her...

Glorya... i might say that you should understand first my words above before you comment ;)

By Glorya• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
Glorya

Gtim you advice her wrongly She might not notice that her husband changes if you didn’t advice her to investigate,

* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust

* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends

* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness

* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment

* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective

By lukaret• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
lukaret

Even you are both married or one of you, its not a reason to stop yourself making freinds with others. I agree with Gloria marriage doesnt mean loosing self identity. Go out and meet others even in your opposite sex there's no problem with that.. If your talking about conservatism, then i probably guess that you dont have male freind coz you're conservative and you will ONLY allow ladies in your circle of freinds.

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

Qatarisun, that's a very very perfect answer!

Glorya... she did this investigation after she notice some changes on her husband's activities...

By Glorya• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
Glorya

you are one of the malicious gtim...playing conservative.. go to your province..

* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust

* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends

* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness

* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment

* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective

By qatarisun• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
qatarisun

I have one close male friend....we go for the coffee,for the dinner, sometimes we go out for the drink together.. but we are really just friends.. He always share with me news about his endless searching for the “right” girl.. he changes these girls every season, and every time we keep discussing what was the problem last time.. i share with him my issues, and again we discuss things.. He is like my 'girlfriend'. I would never consider him as a lover. I mean, of course there is some element of attraction.. but hey, that's how we choose our friends of any gender: element of attraction to the person is always there.. in order to share private things you have to trust person and to like him/her.. but these feelings are way too far from the sexual attraction..

Also this "friendship" cannot interfere with my family. When I have a choice to spend time either with my hub or with this friend, I always chose my hub. So here is the point: if your husband spends too much time with this girl, and if you are neglected at the same time, this is different story..

My hub has some female friend.. she is our common friend actually.. I know her very well.. We spend some time all together (with some other our friends), but I also know that my hub and her sometimes used to go for the lunch, or he used to help her with something.. She recently moved to another gulf country, and my hub and I along with our other friends recently went to visit her there.. So what I want to say is I had never have even one doubt that this is a pure friendship. It’s not about having facts, it is about your sense of the issue.. You as a wife definitely have sense of what exactly is going on… if there is something fishy or not.. If you do feel that there is something, trust me, THER IS!

Why wouldn’t you invite this girl to your house, why wouldn’t you try to become her friend? If it is only friendship, she would respond properly, demonstrating you that there is nothing between her and you hub.. Tell you hub next time when he is going to go to the mall, that you were planning to go exactly to the same mall, and why wouldn't you go all together? Organize outing for you, your hub, this girl, and bring some other friend or better some couple (guy-girl). Try to become part of this group..

But again, just to 'confront' your hub will lead you nowhere.. He perfectly understand that it disturbs and upsets you, and all these fights, tears and ultimatums will only piss him off..

And for those who advise her to get a "Boyfriend" to be equal.. well,, this is not the best way of acting when you want to SAVE your family.. if you want to complete destroying it, then sure, go ahead, get a "BF" and be "equal".. would this equality bring you a happiness?

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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."

Oliver Wendell Holmes

By Glorya• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
Glorya

i think trust is strongly related to your story::

she make some secret investigations and talked to her husband what she knew.

(for what she is investigating if she trust her husband :

* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust

* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends

* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness

* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment

* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
gtim

if both of you are unmarried, there's no problem. As you said so malicious people are just around the corner, often they got the negative conclusion, 'though, you dont make it. in a concervative manner its not actually acceptable.

By lukaret• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
lukaret

I myself have bestfreind at work. We came together and we go out together at office since, ofcourse we have same office timing. We talk, we laught, we tease, we eat together which is become our normal routine. We even go to malls together which is i dont think any problem in that. We are bestfreind and nothing more. The affair thing you were saying is just on the mind of malicious and jealous ppol surround them. In one office you cannot avoid to find ppl who likes to talk about others and make a fire.. Tell your freind not to simply blve those kind of ppol.

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

Glorya, trust is not the question here. It's the temptation that always there..

Nic, i will borrow your words.. "But remember if you always go nearby the fireplace chances is you would be hurt by fire". He is correct..

By Glorya• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
Glorya

If this happen to me, if I am the wife, and my husband told me that he don’t have any affair with this lady.. If you trust your husband and respect him why you worry I believe that even we are married we don’t have to lose our identity ( we can still have friends and go out with them) I know my husband better than anyone else if I see him any changes in our love life that’s another story.

* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust

* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends

* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness

* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment

* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

correct bluerose, the term here is devotion... Be devoted to your wife/husband.

By jackmaeni• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
jackmaeni

i think u mean fun on the bed bcos there is no fun in the sun, there is always shine or brightness under the sun.

second thing regarding ur first post that set her/him free and when he/she will come back then they are yours... you mean if he/she will come back after 2 or 3 years then tell him/her welcome back to sweethome....

WATCH YOUR BACK......

By sammiee• 12 years 3 months ago.
sammiee

i guess this is the perfect answer :-)

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

haha... Sandman, that i was supposed to tell her..

By Colt45• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
Colt45

More often than not, the guy is just looking to have some "fun in the sun"... ;-)

By Colt45• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
Colt45

If you love someone, set them free... if they come back, they're yours... if they don't.............. make them your roadkill ;-).. j/k!

By blue_rose• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
blue_rose

its not good

if someone is married then he/she should not have any best friends whom he/she eat , shopping or coming n going to office..he/she must spend that time shooping or eating with husband/wife

avoid friendship after marriage or otherwise introduce ur husband/wife with that friend..

By azilana7037• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
azilana7037

WE'RE JUST FRIENDS, my ass...yawa!!!

your friend's husband is GUILTY as a child caught with his hand in the jar... need I say more?

By sammiee• 12 years 3 months ago.
sammiee

Things never change we change...:-(

By jackmaeni• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
jackmaeni

that what mostly boys and girls doing, but in this case 85% there can be something between them. she should take action on that and get her husband before it will be to late.... or let her do the same thing to show him what he is doing. i mean just get her good friend and go out with him front of him.... and then let him feel what she feel.

WATCH YOUR BACK......

By north_me• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
north_me

They are best friends with benefits, no doubt about it..

MO RIN...YUN LANG!!!

By enoof• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
enoof

gtim.who,will believe that they are friends.going out to malls,eating together etc.what the wife is doing if shes her.theres something going on them.

By Sandman69• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 2/5
Sandman69

gtim, Tell the wife to get a man to be "Just Friends" with and make sure he finds out about it. Don't accept this double standard. Rub his nose in his own poop

By Hajira• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
Hajira

i know a case just like that. tell your friend not to sit tight on her couch & just forever wonder if it's just friendship or what, at least before it's too late. If her husband is not cooperating, better confront his "friend." Being the wife afterall, OMG! she has to do it...who else will do it for her?

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

azi, the wife is here and she's my friend. she confided to me and asked some advise. she did what i told her. she make some secret investigations and talked to her husband what she knew. but naturally, boys will be boys...all he can say was "honey... were just friends and then turned back from her." i felt sorry for her. She is so worried that it might affect their marriage life..

i was thinking about this other girl? all the while she know that the guy is married, why then she kept on clinging with him... so disgusting...

By casanova• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
casanova

talk it out... best for both of you.

I may not act like a pessimist who wud conclude it as a case of cheating, but I strongly suggest that such issues should be talked out and a common minimum consent should be made in order to have a healthy relationship.

my two cents, but your life...

“We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give.”

Sir Winston Churchill

By azilana7037• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
azilana7037

If the wife prefers to stay home, take care of the kids BUT neglect the husband's needs...there's a problem. Sometimes, romance disappears...

But if the wife is not here...oh oh...

By caNdilicious• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
caNdilicious

both to jail....

iF u Cannot ChangE othErs...changE yourSelf!!!!

By anonymous• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 3/5
anonymous

I second flanostu

By Deal_4_wHeel• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 3/5
Deal_4_wHeel

and that married woman is satisfy to that guy more than her huby... (in lieu of s*x)...???

...Life would become Dull if there were no such Difficulties...

By Nier• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
Nier

No problem being friends as long as there is no flirting. But remember if you always go nearby the fireplace chances is you would be hurt by fire.

By flanostu• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 3/5
flanostu

yes he's cheating on you.

By greentea• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 2/5
greentea

in that case, you have to act before it's too late... you shouldn't just watch and ask, "is it really just friendship?"

By gtim• 12 years 3 months ago.
gtim

Greentea, actually its none of our business if were not involve... but what if your the wife of that guy?...

By greentea• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
greentea

"we are just best of friends"... what can you do anyway? acceptable or not, its none of my business

By anonymous• 12 years 3 months ago.
Rating: 2/5
anonymous

Source:

- A study Conducted by FriedUnicorn - Vol I (September,1999)

"Resident Attention Seeker"

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