Honesty vs. Care

mallrat
By mallrat

How do you prefer a friend to treat you? Honesty or Care?
You can only choose one.

Honesty- You can listen to the honest truth but normally, the truth hurts.

Care- You want a friend to tell you no any part of the truth, it doesn't hurt your feelings.

By mallrat• 12 years 6 months ago.
Rating: 3/5
mallrat

POLITENESS, n. The most acceptable hypocrisy. (Ambrose Bierce, The Devil's Dictionary, 1911)

By shobaker• 12 years 6 months ago.
shobaker

Yap that's it greentea... you can tell it to your friends carefully, with care.... and of course they will surely understand you... if you both love each other as friends you'll gonna help one another to be a better person...

By greentea• 12 years 6 months ago.
greentea

but i would still prefer to hear the truth esp. coming from my well meaning friends.. and besides, friends who cares knows how to break it to you gently ;)

By Khawaga• 12 years 6 months ago.
Khawaga

I agree with Chocoholic. If I have asked for your opinion, yes. Give it to me in all its bitter harshness. However, if I have no asked for it, kindly keep it to yourself.

By shobaker• 12 years 6 months ago.
shobaker

For me, being true to your friend means you do care for her/him... and that's what i want also for my friends to do to me... Just tell it in a positive way... maybe of course it will gonna hurt but just dont be direct to the point... you can just give him some clues or make yourself as an example for him/her to be aware of the truth...

By Sandman69• 12 years 6 months ago.
Sandman69

A friend will help you move your furniture.

A True Friend will help you move the Bodies!

By chocoholic• 12 years 6 months ago.
chocoholic

Sometimes being a friend means just keeping your mouth shut.

By flor1212• 12 years 6 months ago.
flor1212

Padre? What point? Lol!

By Dracula• 12 years 6 months ago.
Dracula

good point, Olive!

By Olive• 12 years 6 months ago.
Olive

Friends will tell you the truth in a caring way, and they'll also know when telling the truth might not be the best thing for you, and rather being their for you is.

What you need to watch out for is "friends" who tell you the "truth" for their own benefit and then tell the "truth" to everyone behind their back to make them look like a good person, when they aren't.

By flor1212• 12 years 6 months ago.
flor1212

but in the evening, I'll choose you! You know all the ways at night! C'mon, let's see the aliens! Lol!

By Dracula• 12 years 6 months ago.
Dracula

again Mallrat?

what's wrong with me? :P

By flor1212• 12 years 6 months ago.
flor1212

how come many choose TRUTH? Hehehehehe!!!

Me I'll stick to my friend, Mallrat's choice, honesty or care, I choose Mallrat! Lol!!!

By choozy_84• 12 years 6 months ago.
choozy_84

can i choose both..good morning

By mjamille28• 12 years 6 months ago.
mjamille28

well, the truth hurts sometimes, but the truth shall set you free... and besides, your friends tell you the truth because they care for you, otherwise, they just don't tell you anything...

By jlazzie• 12 years 6 months ago.
jlazzie

care can never be true care without honesty.

By edifis• 12 years 6 months ago.
edifis

Dunno her address. Have to check with nomerci.

By Dracula• 12 years 6 months ago.
Dracula

i dono..let me check again!

you only send the naked girl :)

By edifis• 12 years 6 months ago.
edifis

BTW, do they have room service in the Police hotel?

By edifis• 12 years 6 months ago.
edifis

That is why Drac was lost for a few weeks. Everyone thought he was hibernating in his coffin inside the cave.

By Dracula• 12 years 6 months ago.
Dracula

last year, nomercy sent a naked girl to my house with a beer in her hand!

...

after 48 hours in the Police Hotel ..i had the beer :P

By shapil• 12 years 6 months ago.
shapil

Absolute truth does not exist. Fanatics and communists had claimed and failed in the past. We all carry our truth with us. Care is something which is very hard to find, but it exists.

By anonymous• 12 years 6 months ago.
anonymous

lol don't be so honest edifis, take some care of my emotions :-P

By edifis• 12 years 6 months ago.
edifis

Me Uncle? I will plant a lemontree right outside your b/r window. So that he may stalk you!

By lemontree• 12 years 6 months ago.
lemontree

damn it!!!

By anonymous• 12 years 6 months ago.
anonymous

No no edifis uncle told me to avoid you.

By lemontree• 12 years 6 months ago.
lemontree

WK me too...want a beer??

By drmana• 12 years 6 months ago.
drmana

Truth and only truth but it should be told with care..

By edifis• 12 years 6 months ago.
edifis

There WK, now you know which tree to avoid when you are naked!

By anonymous• 12 years 6 months ago.
anonymous

lemontree I am ugly :(

By edifis• 12 years 6 months ago.
edifis

Dracula. I cannot bring beer and I won't be naked. Then how can I be your friend?

By nomerci• 12 years 6 months ago.
nomerci

Ahhh Draccy...I really would like to see your face if a girl shows up naked with beer in her hand in front of your door...my guess..you faint!

By Dracula• 12 years 6 months ago.
Dracula

Honestly, my friend..the true is A BIG FAT NAKED: "Go to Hell" with the beer too!

:)

By lemontree• 12 years 6 months ago.
lemontree

i like beautiful boys

By anonymous• 12 years 6 months ago.
anonymous

I can come naked but don't think you are into boys :-P

By lemontree• 12 years 6 months ago.
lemontree

i ll bring beer

By Dracula• 12 years 6 months ago.
Dracula

"A real friend would be "...ohhh, common'...

rule#1: bring beer

rule#2: if you're girl: be naked when you bring beer

By gudone• 12 years 6 months ago.
Rating: 3/5
gudone

a real frnd will b honest while carin also... but i prefer care first....

By britexpat• 12 years 6 months ago.
britexpat

A real friend would be truthful when needed and caring all the time.

By lemontree• 12 years 6 months ago.
lemontree

most probably yes...at some level...if one never learned is the way to say it, has a mean and shallow level of conversation...atleat

By anonymous• 12 years 6 months ago.
anonymous

lemontree, its unlikely that even after 20 years of marriage, you would be able to get away by telling some blatant and hurtful truths to your wife..

does it mean your relationship with her is shallow?

By lemontree• 12 years 6 months ago.
lemontree

acceptability of blunt truth is directly proportional to the depth of relationship

By anonymous• 12 years 6 months ago.
anonymous

nomerci, yes, we should understand the best intentions of our friends...then again, you have used the word 'should'..

we are not talking about what we 'should'..

most of us are not that elevated and enlightened mentally that we can ignore the 'hurt' and churn out the 'truth'

atleast i am not...i want to listen to the truth which doesnt hurt.

By shapil• 12 years 6 months ago.
shapil

Truth I can find from my enemies, care I can only get from my friends.

By nomerci• 12 years 6 months ago.
nomerci

rishimba, then again, should a friend not know that you have their best interest at heart and understand, no matter how you say it, you mean well?

Also, some people do not "get it" unless told in no uncertain terms....

I have to say though, by now I have made it a habit to silently walk away. As most times it is not even worth the effort.

By anonymous• 12 years 6 months ago.
anonymous

nomercy, thats exactly what i am pointing at...if the bitter truth is told with a bit of tact, its better and it works as well...

blatant truth will hurt the person and the friendship will soon get soured..

By Jaryz• 12 years 6 months ago.
Jaryz

"TRUTH WILL SET US FREE" even you end up brokenhearted :(

By Dracula• 12 years 6 months ago.
Dracula

Bingo! :)

By nomerci• 12 years 6 months ago.
nomerci

Dracula, no matter what the situation is, it is always better to tell the truth. One can do this in a tactful fashion. It may be difficult at the time, but it will pay n the long run.

By Dracula• 12 years 6 months ago.
Dracula

nomerci

It's better to tell the true BEFORE making a big decision in your life!

Think about you have to marry with someone but you dont love him!

By Jaryz• 12 years 6 months ago.
Jaryz

listen....

you can easily tell them "HONESTLY" about it that you don't want to listen about your shortcomings, weaknesses whatsoever :)

By nomerci• 12 years 6 months ago.
Rating: 4/5
nomerci

rishimba, you are 100% right , most people do not want to know the truth. If the truth is told to them, even with the intent to help them get better, the person telling them the truth is called all kinds of ugly names and is ostracized.

Thing is, I don't care...I do tell the truth, no matter what.

I believe that , as I said before, only the truth can make us better people. I try...if they don't want to listen it is not my fault.

By Dracula• 12 years 6 months ago.
Dracula

Vampires Version:

"is it not half-living in the denial mode?"

By anonymous• 12 years 6 months ago.
anonymous

jaryz, there is a difference between what we want to listen and what we think we should listen..

especially when it comes to our shortcomings, we really dont want to listen to such weaknesses about ourselves from others..but we all say that we want to know about them from others..

is it not living in the denial mode?

By Jaryz• 12 years 6 months ago.
Rating: 2/5
Jaryz

if drac try,he will end up in the same hospital but this time in ICU...lolsss

By Dracula• 12 years 6 months ago.
Dracula

In fact...SHE told me: "wow, you are so thin!"

:(

By Bluemountain• 12 years 6 months ago.
Bluemountain

see no one is telling true

By gtim• 12 years 6 months ago.
gtim

Honesty. Holding truth to someone you care is like stabbing him at the back.

By edifis• 12 years 6 months ago.
edifis

Drac can you tell a fat girl "wow, you are so thin!". Try it next time.

By anonymous• 12 years 6 months ago.
anonymous

WK, i am waiting to hear some aggresive replies from the girls above..:)

By Dracula• 12 years 6 months ago.
Dracula

Last time when I did...I spent nearly 2 weeks to Hamad Hospital!

She was a FAT one! :(

By Jaryz• 12 years 6 months ago.
Jaryz

truth = denial .... how????

By anonymous• 12 years 6 months ago.
anonymous

rishi you can call a fat guy fat but be careful around fat girls ;-)

By Dracula• 12 years 6 months ago.
Rating: 5/5
Dracula

yes, I can!

By anonymous• 12 years 6 months ago.
anonymous

the fact is, people dont want to listen to the truth about themselves if its bitter to swallow..

all who have answered 'truth' are living in such a denial mode that they are fooling themselves..

just for the sake of argument, if i say to an ugly girl that she is ugly and she will remain ugly even if she tries out loads of make-up on her face...will she like it?

i cant call a fat guy fat....can i?

By Bluemountain• 12 years 6 months ago.
Bluemountain

care is better because TURE can not find here

By anonymous• 12 years 6 months ago.
anonymous

Brutal honesty

By Jaryz• 12 years 6 months ago.
Jaryz

it is better to know the truth earlier than live in a lie forever...

By Dracula• 12 years 6 months ago.
Dracula

Truth!

Naked one: with good and bad parts of it!

By nomerci• 12 years 6 months ago.
nomerci

I prefer truth, as only truth gives us the opportunity to better ourselves.

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