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Qatari Wedding

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We have been invited to a Qatari Wedding this Thursday, and apart from not knowing anyone (as my husband will be on the men's party and I will be at the women's party - to state the obvious!) I have no idea what to expect and what the customs are. 

  • What should I wear?
  • Do we bring a gift? 
  • What happens during a wedding?

I am very honored to have been invited but terrified of making a fool of my self!


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Khanan's picture

Khanan said re: ...

Qatari Wedding:

 Gents Section:

there sure will be two diff section one each for ladies and gents.

the practice is to greet the Groom and his family elders first...then be seated in the hall....red tea/arabic coffee will be served..will be called for the buffet dinner..have dinner and say good bye and thanks to the groom n the family member and leave..

Ladies:

Not sure about the custom...

DG,Amensia might help...

PS: Be sure not to use mobile camera phones...

 

 


 

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good girl said Tess ...

Qatari Weddings are fun. I have been to 23 weddings on my last count. I love it. It's an amazing culture. Try and take a friend with you. And be prepared to dance. Just kidding. You will not be allowed to take your phone, and be prepared to eat lots of nice food.

 

Have fun.


 

good girl's picture

good girl said Sorry ...

Don't take a gift, and Dress like you would if you were going to a wedding back home. The ladies all look lovely and spend a lot of time doing their makeup and wearing nice dresses.

 

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joewilliams said I know a girl who went to a ...

I know a girl who went to a Qatari wedding. She said it got heated because apparently a lot of them turned up with the same outfit on. Very embarassing.


 

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Bintekhalid said qatari ...

qatari wedding............first of all be confident bc no one noticed you so don't be embarress..........dress up just like your own style,no one can bother that what you wear.........don't take a snap with your mobile or camera,be carefull...............enjoy with buffet............if you are try to escape from a borring party then pls take a friend with you......

 

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deedee said qatari wedding experience ...

I thought it was a bit boring.     Beautiful decorations (heard they cost 60,000QR) , tables, lots of sweets.   However it got started very very late  (left at11:00pm, dinner had not started)   Out of 300 women in the room I only saw I dress that I liked.   Most were garish and hideously gaudy.   Lots of Bright bright colors, feathers, sequins, etc.    TONS of makeup on.    They had a runway and a couple of women played the drums and wailed Arabic songs rather loudly.   Girls would get up and dance down the runway (so the older women could check them out as possible daugher-in-law contenders I've been told)

 

Finally the lights went down about 10:00 the fog and light show started--sort of like a rock concert!   The bride then came out and walked very slowly down the runway.    Eventually people came up and showered her head with money.  She looked scared to death.  I learned she was 20 years old and had never met her husband-to-be, but had talked to him on the phone.

 

No cameras allowed of course.   The women arrived wearing abayas and covered, but threw them off and checked each other out.    After the bride's walk,   I left, but I heard later that  the women put on the abayas so that the groom & father/father-in-laws could come and walk down the runway too.


 

Tess's picture

Tess said Thanks ...

So if I have got it right then I should:

Be prepared for late dinner ie: eat before I go.

Dress as ghoulish as I can.

Not take any photos .

Piece of cake! Look forward to the cultural experience Wink


 

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Doha Reader said from my experience, no ...

from my experience, no matter how flamboyantly u dress up, its NOTHING compared to the Qatari ladies there. god, they r all so gorgeous, and their way of dressing up is amazing. cant afford (lol) ;))

abt the gift, no u dont take a gift to the wedding. usually i visit them few days after the wedding, n give a gift.

wat happens during a weddin? well, make sure u sit away from the loudspeakers placed at all corners of the hall :-)) u can dance if u want, to the arabic songs being played there. hhhmmm,, n the food part, its yummy. u can starve for a few days after that to lose all those calories earned on that one evenin:-)

its fun, ENJOY!!

PS: oh yeah, like many others mentioned above, dont click any snaps. n thats if ever they let u carry ur mobile phone inside. usually they hold it at the entrance. so be prepared to be disconnected from the rest of the world for the few hours u spent there..


 

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Doha Reader said oh yeah, late dinner, ...

oh yeah, late dinner, depends on the arrival time of the bride n the groom. n by the way, the ladies get a chance to peep at the groom while he escorts the bride to the hall. unlike the men on the other side, who cant see who their friend/colleague is gettin married to ;)

 

 


 

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Xena said Exactly how Deedee described.... ...

Unfortunately, I have found Qatari weddings to be a bit depressing... I have yet to see it as a joyous occassion... I have been to a few in the last few months, and have been very disappointed. 

 

The ladies seem to be competing with each other in the dress department, and so some outfits are very outlandish...

 

There seems to be so much politics amongs the different groups of ladies sitting at the tables, you know.. this group doesn't like that group, or this part of the family feel snubbed for some reason....

 

The bride ALWAYS looks terrified and a bit like a geisha girl for all the make- up on her face.  I really feel sorry for her.  One of the brides I saw, took about 30 min to walk down the isle in front of us as I don't think she could move with the dress she was wearing....  

 

And you are right about the mobile thing... I had mine with me in the hall (it had been with me the whole night... I had to answer a phone call, and all of a sudden my phone was snatched out of my hand by a waitress....  I was furious..... the brides mother was horrified that the waitress had done that when I told her, and she returned my phone to me.....

 

Its sad actually, I have a number of male Qatari friends, and they all tell me that they would prefer it if the bride would rather just take the money and they could spend it on a house or something... but no, she would rather have a ridiculously expensive party, which he has to pay for for years to come....

 

"if you don't like the heat... get out of the kitchen... but stop trying to fan the flames before you leave... it will burn you on the a** as you go through the doorway...." ME

 

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Maricel said As i know coz before i'm ...

As i know coz before i'm attending qatary party coz we have catering, they wearing "ABAYAT" but inside it's formal wear. First there waiting for all visitors to come, then eat, after that the husband will arrive and start the ceremony and then dancing and playing arabic songs. Undecided


 

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Oryx said Qatari Weddings ...

a lot of what the girls wear at the weddings make it look like a tranvestities convention....

the decor can be very Rocky Horror Show meets La Cage Aux Folles

but its a good laugh and you get to stuff your face with chocolate.

food is same same same .........

But Xena has a point...last one i went to the bride was in floods of tears.

A lot of what happens, music, clothes etc depends very much on the family... there are subtle and interesting nuances.


 

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smart6 said enjoy it ...

don’t take gaft ,and wear any thing you like nice and fancy, what happed is girls are dancing to the music and they have late dinner  


 

diamond's picture

diamond said How lovely for you to have ...

How lovely for you to have been invited to share in such an important family event.  Here is some information which may be helpful to you:

 

Dress :  a long evening dress is suitable with perhaps a wrap over your shoulders which you can take off inside when you are comfortable.  Bear in mind that when you arrive there will be lots of men outside droppping off ladies so it is more respec tful to be a little more covered until you are in.

 

Phones:  usually local women do not wish to be photographed and for this reason you will be requested to leave any camera at the door to be collected on your departure.  So best to take a phone with no camera as they are usually allowed in.

 

Gift :  It is not necessary for you to take a gift to the wedding.  If you wish to give a gift then you can give it beforehand via the person who gave you the invitation. 

 

Partners in crime or going solo? : It is acceptable for you to  take a friend as you said you will not know anyone there.

 

The Evening : I would not usually go before 9pm.  However for your husband he should go earlier...say 8pm.  When you enter there will be two lines of people on opposite sides of the entrance.  They are the family of the bride and groom.  You should take the time to shake their hands and say 'Mabrouk' (congratulations).  Best to say it to everyone around that area.  No-one will mind if you say it to someone you shouldn't!  They'll just smile. 

Dinner can be served as late as midnight.  Typically there will be pre-dinner snacks on the table or served as well as cold drinks, sweet tea without milk and Arabic coffee (kahwa).  Smoking would be considered rude to the family at their special event.  There will be no alcohol served. 

The music will be loud so take note of the speakers and position yourself according to your taste!  The bride will come in and walk along a sort of catwalk to a special seating area for her and perhaps her groom later.  Vidoes, photos will be taken throughout the evening of the bride sitting o her special seat. She does not move from there until the groom comes for her later in the evening.

Some people may dance.  Usually it is relatives of the bride and groom and the younger girls up there but anyone's welcome to give it a go!  Family members dancing and the bride hersef will be showered with money notes.

 

There will be a signal that men are entering the room and you will see lots of women cover up.  The groom will enter with father and brothers of the bride and maybe some little boys of the families.  More photos, video, and then the men will leave the bride and groom to have photos taken with the mother of the groom.

After this it will be late and it will be announced that dinner will be served.  This will be service at the table or a buffet.  You can leave after dinner.  Try to find the mothers of the bride and groom to say thank you (sucran) and mabrouk again.

 

Exit!

 

I hope you have a lovely time and appreciate that it will be a different cultural  experience from what you are used to but one to be respected for the differences you will find!!!

 

Have a lovely evening Smile

 

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diamond's picture

diamond said The wedding is purely a ...

The wedding is actually a reception.  The religious part of it is done very privately with close family members.  The couple will have signed their wedding contract previously and prayers will have been said at the mosque and homes.

 

 

peacepeace _______________________________________________________

Love is the answer...


 

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Oryx said Qatari Weddings ...

I have been a couple of times to family 'welcome home after honeymoon' parties... these were intimate and the house.... enjoyed these a lot...

lots of jolly banter.

If u go to the wedding you got to dance up the catwalk... my fav!

some of the girls are amazing dancers. qataris generally are very subtle in their dance movements which makes it all the more beguiling.

DG has a good point about  being 'respectable' outside.

If you go native dont smoke a cigarette whilst driving...... I almost set fire to my negab once.


 

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jackmohan2007 said diamondgirl...videos? ...

diamondgirl...videos?

 

Are Video & Photos of the Bride taken? I thought it was not allowed, If so then why do they dont allow camera-phones?


 

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canarybird said I have been ...

 

I have been to the engagement and wedding party of my neighbours son, had a great time and I was made most welcome, stood out like a sore thumb because I was the only one with blonde hair there, but this makes no difference because people come and chat and are friendly when the sit down.

 

I find the money throwing on the the stage a little unusual as I have seen different aspects of this some  - some ladies are appointed to pick it up and put it into bags and sometimes it is a free for all for maids to go and pick it up.

 

I love watching the bride come in and walk up the stage until they can finally sit down ( so many people telling her what to do) the one I saw here was extremely happy and looked as if she came out of a wedding catalogue absolutely beautiful.

 

All through the evening until dinner is served there are servers going from table to table with chocolates and pastries and coffee  even small gifts etc. so the evening is never boring.

 

Just don't sit at the very front as the music is very loud (unless you like this) but it is impossible to hold a conversation otherwise.


 

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emron said nice topic for women.... to ...

nice topic for women.... to throw their insight (and envy too) on other women

 

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diamond said Jack...yes a video of the ...

Jack...yes a video of the bride and her family is taken as well as photos by a company (female) hired for the event.  Photos and videos are not taken of any others attending the wedding.  The photos will be made into an album(s) and this and the video are given to the bride.

 

Re the money being thrown...it is gathered up by women specifically hired for that job (usually when you book the 'wedding package' this is included).  If many women seem to be picking up the money it will all be given to the bride and her family afterwards. 

 

 

peacepeace _______________________________________________________

Love is the answer...


 

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djdesi said Just go there... greet them ...

Just go there... greet them and share their happiness with them. It doesnt matter if you know them or not, they will make you feel welcome with their open arms and hearts.

 

Every culture is different and plz dont get off if you find something that is different from your own culture... all cultures should be respected and enjoyed... :)

 

Enjoy and plz keep us posted.. lol

 

 

Regards...

 

DJ


 

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shaheen said ccol ...

ccol


 

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sam i am said Xena ...

So none of the brides of the wedding you were invited too looks beautiful??

 

Tess's picture

Tess said Thank you all for giving me ...

Thank you all for giving me advise for the wedding. I can't say it was very exciting but rather an interesting night.

 

I only wish that someone could have explained what was going on, as it all seemed rather disorganized

 

It didn't appear that anyone was enjoying themselves very much (apart from the girls who was dancing and getting money thrown on them).

 

Not sure if I will go to another one... 


 

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princess habibah said Sorry to hear it was boring ...

Sorry to hear it was boring tess.

 

But don't let one wedding put you off.. I've been to loads of Arab weddings and most of them have been good fun.

 

Maryum : Umm Hasan bint Abdullah Alshabrawishi


 

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babatee said Standard of living in Qatar ...

Can anybody advice me on the standard of living in Doha, I was offer a job as senior QS at QR25,000 all inclusive. I have two children 7 and 4.Will this be salary be appropriate for us.

 

Thanks


 

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novita77 said babatee ... beware with the ...

babatee ... beware with the school fees. Good english school will cost you 7500 QR a term and go up 10 percents min yearly.

 

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babatee said novitta, what advice are you ...

novitta, what advice are you offering me- ask for more money or leave my family in UK?

 

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Xena said I rest my case, then.... ...

Sorry Tess, I did warn you.... 

 

 

"if you don't like the heat... get out of the kitchen... but stop trying to fan the flames before you leave... it will burn you on the a** as you go through the doorway...." ME

 

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Khursheed said Wedding ...

M.Khursheed Uddin

I attended a couple of qatari wedding, enjoyed to see great arabic culture, simple and impressive. I advised you must go and attend, no formal dress, you can wear any good dress, no need to take gift. u will enjoy... Smile


 

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Scarlett said Ohh just experienced my first Qatari wedding ...

about 2 weeks ago...I had the absolute time of my life!

 

Since it was such a wonderful affair, I did dress up fairly fancy, and took a friend who was also invited. We couldn't get there early but showed up about 2 hours into the wedding. The music was loud, but after adjusting to that, the base beat of the drums really gets into you, making your shoulders just move of their own accord. The people were so generous and friendly and the dresses of the women, both old and young were such a sight to behold. The dancing on the catwalk was done with total enjoyment and the young ladies have such a wonderful sense of rhythmn. My friend that invited me, even asked that I join them on the catwalk and I did...her mother came up and rained money down upon my head as they do to the other dancers. It was such fun!!

 

It was interesting to watch the ladies watching the young single women...and I can't help but wonder if they were thinking down the road as to when their sons needed wives, would they like this one or that one...etc...I, personally would have had a horrible time choosing because they all looked so beautiful and happy.

 

The ladies makeup was quite a bit more dramatic than usual, but then again, it was a big social event and a wedding, so they needed to be all dolled up. Its just quite different than what we do back home, but ohh so interesting to attend and feel totally honored to be thought of enough to get an invitation to such a family event.

 

Even when the groom and his male family members came in, the bride was still all smiles, GENUINE smiles....and they looked entirely happy together. I can understand how some folks said the bride looked scared or unhappy, if indeed they are, but in this case, she was positively beaming! Of course, knowing the one family member that I do, if her brother is anything like her, the bride is one very lucky woman, indeed!!

 

I wouldn't hesitate in the least if ever offered an invitation to a Qatari wedding again. Nor would I hesitate to dance the catwalk or offer up the money for the dancers. (would just have to figure out the protocol, first so I don't make a total jerk of myself in public!) So...if any of you are offered the opportunity to attend a Qatari wedding...GO!!! Its an honor and a priviledge and its just plain FUN!!

 

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. --Abraham Lincoln (1809 - 1865)


 

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psychedella2001 said i want to attend one....but ...

i want to attend a qatari wedding,,,,but in this case, i want to be the bride....how do i do that? hmmmmmm,,,,i dunno...i just know one good qatari guy...but too scared to ask him as he can be a very eligible bachelor...step 1?

 

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psychedella2001 said Kidding.....but can take t seriously..... ...

...if given serious thoughts..

 

esvcc's picture

esvcc said wedding wear ...

Been to a few Qatari weddings the next will be mine :D one time i forgot to bring am abya and shayla and when all the men came in i was the only one without anything covering me up (even thought i knew them still embarasing) so i would recommend anyone going to one to bring them along muslim or not :)

 

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Bastook said no one didn't enjoy a wedding my family host ...

Because of the environment of my work, I've been asked the question so many
time about attending a wedding and all what is mentioned here is true.

 

I always tip them with have a nape before going to the wedding, if it was on
Thursday; or sleep late on Friday/Saturday. Especially if the guest is invited
by the groom and/or family; it is kind of impolite to leave the wedding before
the groom’s attendance.

I’ve been invited to a wedding by the bride’s family and she didn’t come
before midnight.

 

It is kind of rude if you danced before any of the bride’s/groom’s family. They
have to open the dance floor. Sometimes the bride’s best friends may start the
dancing, but it is better if the family starts first.

The money throwing part is like throwing sugar/salt/rice in the forging
weddings.

 

 

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Grantley said ok - lots of tips for the ladies, but what about the men? ...

... I've been invited by a man I don't know to his sons wedding. So I just turn up, shake hands whilst saying mabrook a lot, sit politely for a while, shake hands again whilst saying shukran & mabrook then scarper?

Is there an order of events, or can I politely stay, what, 45mins and leave without causing offense?

thanks in advance...

 

diamond's picture

diamond said I always think it is rather ...

I always think it is rather rude for people who have been invited to an occasion to leave at the first available opportunity. Perhaps you might consider staying for the evening and trying to get to know a few people and experience some local customs. It is generous of the man to extend an invitation to you at what is mainly a family event and you should act accordingly.

Clothing should be formal. A suit and tie if that is your normal formal attire. Try not to take your jacket off during the evening.

Accept and consume food and drink with the right hand. When being served kahwa (Arabic coffee) if you have had enough return the cup holding your hand over the top and shake it slightly from side to side. This indicates that you do not want a refill. Drink the kahwa while eating something sweet as it has quite a bitter taste. If you are eating dinner with your hand, you must wash your hands after you have finished. If you do not, you will be considered dirty. Do not blow your nose near anyone. If you have to blow your nose (use your left hand), use the bathroom or go outside.

When you sit avoid pointing the sole of your foot towards anyone. Many are offended by this.

Leaving without having dinner is rude. No-one will say anything to you but everyone will think you have no manners and you are disrespecting the father who invited you to his family wedding. People will start to leave shortly after dinner. At this point you can thank the father and son and congratulate them and make your exit.

If you have any more questions I will be happy to help.

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Aisha-Taweela said There have been many ...

There have been many comments on the wedding. Basically the difference in the marriage is from the family. You will otice that Bedou marriages are a lot more fun then some of the other families. I have also been at weddings where food was served before the groom came and before the dancing started.
The showering of money means prosperity to the person on whom it is thrown. Usually this money is collected and given to the Arabic ladies band.
Some weddings are boring and some are fun, but never go alone. Much better to have someone whom you can talk to about what you see as very often not many other guests will speak english
Aisha-Taweela

 

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Grantley said Thanks!! ...

.. I was only asking about how long to stay as I have heard conflicting reports from my colleagues. I also thought to have a stranger hanging about might be a bit embarrassing for all concerned, especially as I only speak a tiny amount of Arabic.

One last question if I may - am I to give money? Mention has been made about "showering" with money. Or is only at the ladies event?

thanks again, invaluable advice.

 

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diamond said No Grantley, no money. For ...

No Grantley, no money. For you gift giving is optional. I never like to go anywhere empty handed so if you feel the same you can give a gift which you can give directly to the groom. Some ideas would be a pen, cufflinks, nicely wrapped presentation of chocolates, etc.

Nothing for the bride. That would be considered offensive as you are a male friend of the father.

Don't worry about being embarassed. You have been invited so you are very welcome.

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goodluck said as read abt all these nice ...

as read abt all these nice ppl's comments, i think it's not much difference from a Pakistan wedding.

 

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Bintekhalid said its nice that you are going ...

its nice that you are going to attend a Qatari wedding pls don't be nervious but 2 things you must have in your mind first one don't try to take the snap and second one be easy,

 

Grantley's picture

Grantley said cool... ...

... I'm really excited about it. It will now be so much more enjoyable, thanks to all the advice provided.

I'll report back on my experience!!

 

Grantley's picture

Grantley said it was great fun!! ...

Completely different experience, made more enjoyable by your help. I didn't know a soul, nor did I have any luck finding someone to speak english to. My few atempts at striking up a conversation were either interrupted by someone else wanting to greet my "victim", or met with a polite "la englesi". But just soaking up the atmosphere was great fun. All those swords!!!

FYI - the rules about phones don't seem to apply on the men's side - many pictures being taken. So I had a juice or two and wandered around. Westerners were very much in the minority, but it was a privilege to be invited.

I tried to greet and thank my host, but am really unsure if I met the right person - I worked the front row anyway!

So, thanks again - I'm looking forward to the next one, and I will be sure to take someone along with me.

 

diamond's picture

diamond said So glad you enjoyed the ...

So glad you enjoyed the experience. You're quite right...taking pictures is fine for the men. Ah yes, the sword dance. I just love the singing and dancing that comes along with that *swoon*. Although I don't go to men's weddings (!) I watch the DVD aftwerwards. Always ooks like a great evening :) I'm sure you were well fed too.

It would be a good idea to bring a friend along next time.

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Airwolf's picture

Airwolf said All this information is ...

All this information is great, so I only have one question:

A group of us from work have been invited to a wedding...do we need to accept the invitation or just turn up on the day ?

 

diamond's picture

diamond said You should indicate verbally ...

You should indicate verbally that you intend to attend.

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bleu's picture

bleu said Airwolf, don't worry, just ...

Airwolf, don't worry, just show up. Women's weddings are completely different, you would need a special card to enter.

Many people also come uninvited and we don't care (they see a wedding while driving and crash in to greet) .

Printed invitations are optional, many weddings rely more on word of mouth. Don't bring it with you, nobody will ask for it (they would probably be amused if they see you carrying a card).

 

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AbuAmerican said Just went to a male side ...

Just went to a male side walima, was kinda cool. They did a sword dance to the beat of drums.

Food was good too. Was nice to be invited to a wedding, was very lavish and... well lavish.

 

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AbuAmerican said O and I forgot the best ...

O and I forgot the best part.. They set up this like vehicle procession and one of the shabab got a lil over excited and flipped his land cruiser over. I saw it happen all slow motion style..

Was amazing no one got hurt.

 

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christine spanos said thx all, bcz tomorrow amm ...

thx all, bcz tomorrow amm inviting to aQATARI WEDDING, AND NOW I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I CAN DO, DONT DO, ITS LOOK GREAT....

 

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owen said hmmmm...wonder when will i ...

hmmmm...wonder when will i be invited to one.. :) just bookmarking this thread..
Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.

 

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esvcc said johanna your a Wedding ...

johanna your a Wedding Dresses Designer right well im getting married soon do you have a shop here or was it back in your home country? Coz i would be intrested in meeting you.

 

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SHIHABVS said good ...

good

 

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Mushka said I WANT TO BE IN A QATARI WEDDING ONCE ...

while i was reading all the comments, i was surprised and very interested, how can i visit a qatari wedding? :)) i know its impossible... but still have a hope :D loooool

thnx, cheers ;)

 

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tomsware said mabruk ! ...

it's been mervelously well versed diamond !
mabruk !

 

Mushka's picture

Mushka said mabruk? for who? :d Some one ...

mabruk? for who? :d Some one got married here? am i invited? :D:D:D

 

medoha's picture

medoha said mabruk ...

why cant't the wedding receiption be done during day time?

why is it done at very late night? Qatari wedding is during winter all the time. Any idea why it is done at night?

To get a good mood, the day time is best. :):):)

If me, I will do during day time.

Ghosts enjoy at night.

 

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Bastook said Why in the day time ...

well I can ask the same question to western people do their wedding during the day???

What I knew that you party all day all night. unlike us we party only at night and in some occasions it goes on to very early hours of the morning.

it is kind of a norm thing to host the weddings and any social event at night specially if it comes on a weekday where everyone is at work.

It all started out when back in the old days, the official part of the wedding (signing the contract) is done after the sunset prayers then people are invited to a dinner and a celebration.
then over the years it developed to be a bigger and require more time to arrange.

also, because everyone by then (I mean night) had relaxed, done with their Commitments, well prepared and looking forward to party.

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fiza4u said novitta is right ...

novitta is right, also make sure that they pay school fees and housing fees, if not then u can forget it!

 

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vmakunhi said Qatari wedding invitation ...

first when u enter the wedding place, say salam to all, assalamu alaikum, then go and shake hand the bride groom wishing him congradulation, or in arabic alf mabrook. and wait or drink a cup of Gahwa or black tea that always a supplier will be roaming, if it is hotel, be seated till every one get up to begin filling the stomach with verieties of food that you have not dreamed ever before including big camel fry to tiny sheep to make you a big surprise and later eat fruits if available, then just move out straight away, that is the proceedure for men.

For your wife can join with wemen area and say the same to the bride and be seated till everyone is invited to eating and just finish it and go home, that is all. No extra things to think about it what so ever. This is very simple custom. No more no less. Best of luck for fantastic party.

 

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AbuAmerican said I am going to a Qatari ...

I am going to a Qatari wadding today.. Cant wait!
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expat bnota said have fun and don't be shy to ...

have fun and don't be shy to dance. They will surelly appreciate that.

 

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AbuAmerican said lol not my first Qatari ...

lol not my first Qatari wedding... I would dance but I don't have a sword. :P
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bleu said have fun ...

have fun

 

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Happy Happy said AbuAmerican...Enjoy..:) ...

Have fun and keep away from "flippin" land cruisers. Girls' side of the wedding doesn’t include a procession:(( would've loved to be part of it.

Have fun
Salam


 

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bleu said Happy, I prefer to flip my ...

Happy, I prefer to flip my own LC.

 

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Eve said Ear Plugs ...

I have to use Ear Plugs at the Ladies wedding parties the music is way too loud. Also, they do now give cards to guests and every wedding I attended the card is required for entry, so make sure you bring it or you won't get in.

 

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Happy Happy said Bleu and Eve ...

Bleu...Do you have LC in the first place?..:)

Eve, you'll definitely need thicker 3D ear plugs for Egyptian weddings..:) you cannot dodge the penetrating noise from any corner down at the wedding hall. Yet, they are so nice and upbeat.

Salam

 

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bleu said Eve, usually no card is ...

Eve, usually no card is required from the men's side of a wedding, anybody is welcome to crash in.

Happy, Of course I have a white landcruiser, just like any other Qatari. :P

 

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Happy Happy said Bleu..Some Weddings ...

A few weddings are without a card needed for entrance. The host gives you one for family/friends, as many as one wishes.

And enjoy the white Land Cruiser, but be careful with your driving though, the traffic law is strict now. Hope you read the new one.

Next time make sure not to reveal any personal info. Now we know how to find you...white LC in Doha:))

Salam

 

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AbuAmerican said lol word to the wise, if you ...

lol word to the wise, if you get invited and sit next to the groom in the white chairs. Stay there for a few minutes only. we stayed there for like.... a half hour till we noticed we were the only ones staying in those chairs..

Come greet the groom, sit for 5 or 6 min then move to the other chairs.

Lol wish someone would have told me that instead of me figuring it out then asking only to sheepishly find out my intuition was right.
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bleu said LOL, don't worry about it, ...

LOL, don't worry about it, we have unwritten/unsaid customs that you're not really expected to follow.

This reminds me of a wedding I went to, there was this Japanese guy who was invited, and he had his guitar and a sheet of paper with him.

He wanted to play some music and sing in Japanese for the groom (who was embarrassed between his elders... ). Everybody wanted him to do it, but the groom asked him not to (unfortunately) ... some of the guys wanted to take a video using their phones and post it on youtube.


 

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fubar said I've been to a few mens' ...

I've been to a few mens' weddings and I would never bother going to one again. The guy's wedding ceremony is deathly boring.

The protocol is that you arrive, shake hands with the groom and his father. Just say 'mabrook' and keep moving... don't linger. The groom will look bored and fed up since you will be the 500th person he has seen all night...

After that the guys pop inside, have a bite to eat, and then go home. Nothing very exciting.

Usually all the non-Qatari guys end up seated together so there's very little chance to meet the local guys and interact.

My advice is to go for the free food and just to say you've been. Don't expect it to rock your world.

 

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bleu said fubar, The groom doesn't ...

fubar,

The groom doesn't want to be there, he is counting seconds before going to the other-side...

Don't sit with all the non-Qataris, try to mingle. Grab a sword and wave it around. Your experience depends on what you do.

 

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fubar said Bleu, I haven't been to ...

Bleu, I haven't been to bedou weddings :p

I guess I just went to really boring, refined, upper class weddings. I did get invited to one of these weddings out in the desert, and was quite keen to go, except it was in some remote part of the UAE and clashed with work.

Perhaps I've just been to some dud weddings, granted, but how much fun can a bunch of sober men have in a banquet hall?

 

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yel_tiu said i attend qatari wedding ...

i attend qatari wedding today,,coz my friend in my work invite me,,, mobile not allowed ,,and must have invitation,
the qatari lady walk slowly to aisle ,, suddenly her husband came and stay for 15 minutes then they go together going to hotel,,, i enjoy also coz my friend from my work also qatari, we sit are in one table....im shy little bit coz im the only filipina there and im very very happy.

 

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jaycee_jayc said `jazmin Williams It all ...

`jazmin Williams

It all sounds so interesting
and fun, It must be an honor, to be invited to a celebration like this, being from another country and not a part of the family.
I read most of the comments, and I feel like I have went to one now. ( good Imagination !)

 

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Lovelyrose said You will shoot me but ... ...

You will shoot me but i must ask...Is the prince married?
Wow he is so handsome, lololol i can imagine him crossing the sand on a with horse and running away with my for a nice and romantic wedding lolololol...it was just a dream on the arabic land lololol

 

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Happy Happy said Lovelyrose...He's Taken..)) ...

Don't get all carried away..:) Sorry to rain on your “ Arabic dream”.

Salam

 

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Zhong said i have just being invited to ...

i have just being invited to a qatari wedding with the trditional dance, male & female seperated, you don't have to bring the gifts, but important to meet the bride and congratulate him face to face with sincerety.
to be honest, i use the mobile camera and they told me it's allowed for the male gathering. female forbidden.

 

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bestinbusiness said Just Dress Up as you do in ...

Just Dress Up as you do in any wedding Ceremony. Do not forget to wish Bride and her family Members.
Make up your mind that YOU will see a different look of Qatari Ladies which you do not see normal in any public Place and that is Why You are not allowed wid MObile Camera.

Have a Nice One

 

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BIT_WITS said Fantastic ...

Diamond,

Your indeed correct in your inputs.. these are traditions and needs to be respected that way :)

Regards
BitWits

 

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dr.xray said TRY TO RESPECT OTHER CULTURES ...

DEAR XENA ....TRY TO LEARN RESPECTING OTHER CULTURES...IF U CANT THEN DONT MINGLE WITH 'EM...
WEARING LOADS OF MAKEUP ON UR WEDDING DAY IS NOTHING UNCOMMON ,AS MOST OF THE CULTURES (SOUTH EAST ASIAN, MIDDLE EASTERN, EGYPTIAN TO NAME A FEW)HAVE THE SAME TRADITIONS...AND BY THE WAY WHAT IS THE PROBLEM IN THAT...IS THERE ANY?? EVERYONE WANTS TO LOOK GOOD ON THAT SPECIAL DAY...SO EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO WEAR MAKEUP N BE GROOMED TO LOOK BEAUTIFUL. ISN'T IT?
AND YES THEY DO WEAR GOOD AND EXPENSIVE CLOTHES ON WEDDINGS AND AGAIN THIS DOESNT SOUND ABNORMAL TO ME...
SECONDLY BRIDES DONT TAKE 30 MINS TO WALK DOWN THE ISLE COZ THEY R WEARING HEAVY DRESSES..BUT ITS A APRT OF TRADITION AGAIN TO WALK SLOWLY N ELEGANTLY..(I WONDER IF PEOPLE DO RUN IN WEDDING DREESES ...LOLZ)
AND YES OF COURSE NOT ALL QATARI WEDDINGS ARE DEADLY EXPENSIVE...IF U HAVE MONEY U MAY SHOW IT..IF U DONT THEN KEEP THE MIIDLE TRACK...AS SIMPLE AS THAT...

EVERYONE WANTS TO THROW THE BESTEST PARTY TO HIS FRIENDS...Y WOULDNT THEY GO FOR IT IF THEY CAN BEAR THE EXPENSES..
TRY TO RESPECT OTHER CULTURES N TRADITIONS BESIDES UR OWN...U WILL DEFINITELY ENJOY THEM...

AND REMEMBER:::

"Criticism is prejudice made plausible."

***~~~~DR.XRAY~~~~***

 

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Xena said lol, did you HEAR that alexa.... ...

shouting from the rooftops.....hmmmm.... my eardrums are hurting....

dr.xray, I am intitled to my own opinion..... Someone asked about my experience with Qatari weddings and I gave it.... No need to SHOUT (capslock on)

BTW... this post is more than a year old.... and many other posts have gone after mine, so get over yourself, I have no doubt that my experiences DIDN'T hinder anyone else from enjoying the experience.... ok....

"if you don't like the heat... get out of the kitchen... but stop trying to fan the flames before you leave... it will burn you on the a** as you go through the doorway...." ME

 

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fubar said Perhap Dr Xray should read ...

Perhap Dr Xray should read 'Girls Of Riyadh' and hear how Saudi girls themselves describe the pain and anguish of their own weddings.

Or perhaps they aren't entitled to their opinions either.

 

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Xena said lol Fubar.... now why didn't I think of that one...... ...

yes, true, along with the whole Jean Sissons "Princess" series....

"if you don't like the heat... get out of the kitchen... but stop trying to fan the flames before you leave... it will burn you on the a** as you go through the doorway...." ME

 

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bleu said fubar, Xena, Those are about ...

fubar, Xena,

Those are about the experiences of "SOME" of the people in this part of the world, it doesn't make sense to generalize either on all marriages.

p.s. "Girls Of Riyadh" and "Princess" are both about Saudi Arabia.

 

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fubar said I didn't mean to imply that ...

I didn't mean to imply that *all* Gulf women hate the thought of marriage. If anyone thought that for a second I'm surprised.

I was merely responding to someone who was questioning Xena's perception of the wedding.

The few Qatari guys I've met who are unmarried are not considering marriage because they can't afford it. Prospective wives demand that after marriage they live away in their own house, something more and more couples cannot afford.

For a few of my Qatari friends, they can't see the point of entering into an arranged marriage with a relative. They know that they won't be faithful to their wife, and so they figure rather than put her through the grief of a sham marriage they should instead just continue playing the field as care free bachelors, much to their father's diappointment.

But perhaps I just know a wierd bunch of Qatari men.

 

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Xena said lol Fubar... we must know the same ...

bunch of men.... my male qatari friends say exactly the same thing....

I know its the culture, but I think its such a waste to spend so much on a wedding when you can put it into your home rather.

I have a qatari friend, whose sister just wants a small family wedding - she is under such pressure from her cousins, that if she doesn't have a big traditional one she will be an outcast. She has the full support of her immediate family in regards to her choices - as her mom and dad did the same thing.

"if you don't like the heat... get out of the kitchen... but stop trying to fan the flames before you leave... it will burn you on the a** as you go through the doorway...." ME

 

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